How to ask someone to be your bridesmaids

I just texted my friends. I don’t understand why it has to be some big production.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think it needs to be a big production. But text just seems a little less personable.

View Quoted Comment Well I don’t know why a text isn’t sufficient. Maybe it isn’t to you.


But a phone call would be just fine too. Then you can still emote excitement. It could also be I did the text thing because my girlfriends were not local to me and I didn’t have the time or patience to organize something like that. Honestly I am not a very organized person. It’s okay if you are though.
My friends aren’t really into frilly things and I think all of us (my friends) are far too busy to care about how they were asked. They just needed to know when to show up, what to buy and spend time with me at my bachelorette party. Our priorities were just elsewhere and that’s okay.

You don’t need to do the whole bridesmaid proposal thing. The wedding is not about spending the rest of your life with your bridesmaids.
But that works for me and my circle of friends. If your friends are super girly and you’ve always dreamed about it, then you do whatever you want. And don’t let someone like me away your decision.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the different insight on it. I think both ways works.

View Quoted Comment Hey I totally agree. Your social circle is not mine or vice versa and I’m sure it would be a lovely experience if you put the effort into making it a nice experience! I didn’t have a shower either. But that was because it wasn’t on my list of priorities. Everyone’s are different when it comes to a wedding. And that’s completely okay if you care about something else that someone else doesn’t.

I made boxes for them based on their favorite things (tv/movie, candy, color, etc) so it's not really a cookie-cutter proposal box each one is made specifically for that person. Before I started on my boxes I did ask the girls individually I wanted "if I were to ask you to be in my bridal party would you accept?"

View Quoted Comment I agree completely

I did it at my engagement party. I decorated fake pumpkins for the maid of honor and best man so they could keep it for memories. Whomever wasn’t there, I just asked over messenger because that’s our preferred method of contact. But mostly my bridesmaids are my sisters and my cousins. My maid of honor is my best friend. Thins are also very different now with COVID. Traveling and getting together will be harder.

View Quoted Comment If someone is pregnant and not telling people yet, or planning something they have not announced yet, like to join the Army or the Peace Corps, or join a new boyfriend in Rio, or having serious financial issues and working a second job, then it is unfair to out them, just so you can have a surprise. People really do say no. The reasons may come as a surprise. My roommate in college, when asked, chose that time to tell me she had bern diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. My second wedding, one of my closest friends told me she was taking a job in Europe, and leaving her husband of 2 years. But did not want anyone to know til she formally filed.
It is something you may laugh off, my family, I know everything. But sometimes, you don't.

View Quoted Comment Anytime! Have fun and happy planning!! 🥂

I made them a little spa basket and asked them individually one on one. It was hard to get everyone together just the ladies.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I understand people have things going on and some people just can’t make it happen for personal reasons. I was referring to someone saying no Bc they just don’t want to be apart of my wedding. Like I said these are my sisters and cousin. I may not know EVERYTHING they have going on but your example was from friends at which you more than likely won’t know what they have going on personally compared to family. These are my sisters. Not really the same.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the simple supportive response. ♥️

View Quoted Comment Thank you ☺️

View Quoted Comment All family has its own issues, but you likely do know what is going on with their lives. But yes, sometimes a person simply does not want to be a bridesmaid, no conflict of other things. Or does not want to be bridesmaid for the particular person. When people are first engaged, and excited, they often ask too many, or inappropriate people.

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Welcome, darling. Good luck with your wedding! Have fun.

I invited my girls over for a girls night and I has everything set up for them. We cried, we ate, and we got drunk it was a night just for us.

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This is all true. Thank you.

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Ahhh, i love that idea! Thanks babe.