How to Ask Your Maid of Honor?

You don't have to gift her a gift but I've seen people do it that way. Doing a proposal in a unique way. I personally texted my cousin for BM lol my two sisters automatically were like I'm in it obviously and so did my best friend. My younger sister wanted to be maid of honor. And my older sister was cool with whatever so I made her matron but you seem really to ask her so i would do a unique proposal. Google them

Really excited to ask* sorry I hate there is no editing

View Quoted Comment

Thank you! that helped a lot,

You don't have to get them a gift! For mine, I made them little cards and then tied them to mini wine bottles with a ribbon and asked them that way.

You don't need to make a big deal out of it. Don't let Pinterest and others pressure you into making everything a big production. Call her and ask. Take her to lunch or dinner and ask. "I would love if you would agree to be my maid of honor. Please think about it and let me know."

I recommend asking her without a gift or "proposal" because they may put undue pressure on her to say yes or put her in an awkward position if she is not sure. Just ask her however you normally communicate with her. I didn't have a MOH, but instead 3 bridesmaids, and I just texted each one.

I'm getting married at a winery, so I bought my cousin (MOH) a bottle of wine from the winery, a glass, and a canvas wine bag that said will you be my matron of honor. After we were done working out one day I gave it to her. I sent my 3 other BM's cookies asking if they would be bridesmaids.

I am taking my MOH out to dinner to ask her. She's been one of my best friends since I was 2 years old and we have always shared news over a meal. We jokingly 6 months ago talked about my bachelorette party would be the two of us getting whiskeys and cigars at one of our favorite cigar bars that happens have a restaurant next door and instead that's how I'm going to ask her to be in my wedding. But I'm sure she knows it's coming.

View Quoted Comment

Wow that is really nice! Thank you its a great idea!

When do I really tell everyone we are getting married, right now only our parents know, we were waiting to give the final down payment for the venue. Should I ask her before or after we give the announcement?

For my MOH I texted her and said “do you think you’ll be able to come to my wedding?” And she said “of course” and I said “yay! ....soooooo, will you be my maid of honor ?”

it doesn’t have to be an ordeal. Just ask. The only “wrong” way to ask is in a situation where they feel pressure to say yes (like a big public party in front of a huge group)

View Quoted Comment Agreed- I just texted to ask first time around and will do the same for the 2nd.

This is what I did when I asked my sister! It’s the first thing I bought as soon as I got engaged! Maybe you could do something similar?

I just asked mine when I called and told her I got engaged. When FH and I got engaged, we told some close relatives and friends before doing a big announcement, and my MOH was one of the people I told before the announcement. If you want to do a card or gift, go for it, but I doubt your cousin would be any less excited or honored if you didn't.

I wouldn't say gifts are necessary, but it is a nice touch, when I asked my bridesmaids I did little gift boxes. I bought some plain wooden crates and spray painted them, and put these cute little sparkly self adhesive bows that I found. Inside I layered some light pink and blue tissue inside. I filled each box with a few small, not too expensive gifts (Hershey kisses wrapped in pink or blue foil, sparkling wine, a little floral cosmetic bag, and a cute bracelet) along with a heartfelt card asking them to be in my wedding. But there are plenty of ways to do it, you can buy "will you be my maid of honor?" Labels that stick on wine bottles and are super cute as well!

View Quoted Comment This! Pretend I said it too