How to be there as comfort for your spouse

I’m going to sound like a broken record, because I suggested the same thing on your last post, but you and your husband need to seek out therapy ASAP. You are experiencing foundational issues in your marriage (trust, openness, honesty and communication) which, if left untreated, are going to lead to the complete breakdown of your marriage. If you want to salvage the relationship, seek professional help together and use the tools to work through these issues. Best of luck!

I agree with Cece. Go to a counselor ASAP (you go first if he refuses to go—but that’ll also not be a good sign if he won’t work on the marriage).

I agree with both of the above comments. A therapist can help both of you navigate these issues in your relationship.

PPs are right. Between this and your previous discussion, you need to find a marriage counselor to help.

I have a book recommendation for you. Fix That Sh****t by Chantel Hyde. Easy read, super helpful tips.


In regard to your husband - you can’t force him to communicate with you. The only thing you have control of is how you act and react.