My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half, 8 months of which was long-distance. He's in college 600+ miles and over 10 hours away but is home in the summer and during breaks. We both know we want to marry each other, and we had initially planned for Fall 2025, after he graduates from school, but we have recently debated moving it to Fall 2024 instead. We looked at finances, and based on an estimate for Pell Grants, he would have to pay a lot less for school. We have done a lot of research and looked logistically at everything, and everything makes sense. We don't want to do an additional year of long distance if it isn't necessary. It's very emotionally draining, and only being able to talk for 5-10 minutes max every weeknight isn't viable for a relationship.
Both of our parents were married young (Mine at 23/25 and his at 18/19). They have concerns (most of them to do with finances and us being 10 hours from home) as any parent would. I'm confident that my parents will support us regardless of which way we decide to go, even if they aren't elated initially. His parents are a lot more apprehensive and it would take a lot more for them to be supportive and happy for us.
We haven't made an official decision, but are very heavily leaning towards next year, as we feel it will be the best decision for us emotionally and for our relationship, and it won't set us back financially (it will actually decrease his loans for that school year - plus we'll have the payments saved by then). We want our parents to be happy, and we know that may not happen initially. We are pretty confident in our (unofficial) decision and know that we can't control their reactions and feelings; we also are aware that their concerns are valid, and won't go away overnight. We were just hoping for advice, guidance, or similar experiences that may help us make our final decision/help us tell our parents in the most gentle and respectful way possible. Thanks in advance!