So my FH and I both have very big families. We were engaged after dating for 2 years and are now planning our wedding for next year. We have a venue limit of 180 guests. I wanted to cap it at 150 becuase I didnt want the venue to be packed but FH say he needs the extra invites for family so I say ok (mil paying for venue ). So we are working on our list and we have 230 people ( most extras are on FH side I have 80 invites). I feel like he is having a hard time telling people NO when they ask to come. Many on his list are people (family, friends, coworkers, etc) that he barely talks to.
How should he go about letting them know they are not invited? He is asking me what he should do but I do not know what to say because I am not having that problem and do not know how to address it in a nice way.
I suggested he just change the subject when they bring it up but idk if that will work.
HELP!! I would hate to come off as mean to people but we cant go over 180 people. FH suggested we just invite them because they probably wont RSVP or show but what if they do.