How to describe the feeling…

To be honest, it feels absolutely no different than when we lived together, except now I have to remember "hey, did you cancel your health insurance because you're on mine" and "did I change that beneficiary?" (I also HATE the word husband/hubby)

People ask how married life is treating me. Married life is fine, same as it always was. It's the rest of life that's kicking my ass right now lol.

I have to agree with Janeen - it really doesn't feel much different than before we got married. I do, however, get the warm fuzzies when H refers to me as his wife.

"About the same" is how I answer lol.

It did not hit me. It is something that just has gradually come up, where I am a wife, have a husband, etc. I do feel a little more connection with him, but nothing shocking or amazing. I just love being his wife

Janeen, we're on the same page....married life is the same....the rest of life is kicking my butt!

Peace? Security? Contentment? It's incredible to know that he has promised the rest of his life to me and he's got me no matter what. I expected to feel happy, but hadn't known how much it would also make me feel safe and how amazing unconditional love would be. I knew he loved me before, but there's something about being on the other side of vows that allows me to look back and think 'wow, he really is in this for the long haul." I feel special.

I agree. It's hard to explain. But for us, life did change dramatically when we got married. And it was a very definite change for the better.

@Janeen - I agree about beneficiaries. I know H's SSN by heart now because I have had to recite so many times to change over those documents.

I agree about life kicking ass lately. I feel like there has been so much going on in the last few months!!

@Wildflower - I like that: "Being on the other side of vows". It is such an interested process to get married. You have all of the frills of planning a wedding and there really is a sort of peace afterward.

I usually say "It's the same, only better."

@Tina - That's the truth! That is basically what it boils down to

Same except poorer from paying for it - and the warm and fuzzies part that @daniegee said. I just got back from the SS office so I am officially Emmy DHsLastName

It's different for us because we didn't live together before, but usually since it's an awkward question I either change the subject or tell a funny story. Describing "married" is hard! IT's awesome, it's official, it's fun and also lots of "work". I'll say "so we're having the great milk debate over which percentage of milk fat to buy" and that usually makes people laugh. *shrugs*

@LadyMonk _ LOL! H and solved it by just buying two. I get my half gallon of skim organic milk and he gets his gallon of 2% - Problem solved

Its funny how little things like that come up and need to have some sort of "conclusion". Married life in interesting in that respect!

Yep we just did that as well.

I say it is the same, except now he has stopped asking if I was going to leave him

"So far so good" lol.

Truthfully it is just as everyone else said. The same, only better. Sometimes I describe the feeling as "being more settled."

@JSARGE that's EXACTLY what I tell people! I think I even wrote that in the card I gave him for V-day. lol