How to encourage fiancé to lose weight?

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I agree with this 1000%. The decision/motivation to change eating and exercise habits, in my experience, has to be a personal decision. (I'm a 30+ yr Weight Watchers lifer -- at or below goal for most of that time -- so I have experience.) Since I've always done the bulk of the shopping and cooking, I just make healthier choices. He'll sometimes eat things I would never choose, like a package of cookies for dessert or a super high-calorie restaurant meal, but for the most part, our family eats reasonably healthy most of the time. Over more than 30 yrs together, both H and my weights have gone up and down some (his more than mine), but at no time did either of us ever suggest that the other could/should lose weight. The couple times my weight crept up, I would have been devastated if he'd said anything to me about it; I knew I'd put on weight, I just needed to get to the point where I was ready to take it off again. We support and encourage each other when we're trying to be healthier, but never suggest doing it. Good luck!

He has to be the one who really want a to lose the weight, you just have to be supportive about it. Personally i'd just get the photos taken and they might be motivation enough for him to work on a healthy lifestyle for you both.

Also, healthy weight loss goal, with a max of 5 pound a week loss, takes months to a achieve. So i wouldnt hold up your plans for this.

I don't think this is your place at all. Can you imagine if a bride posted here that her fiance was pushing her to lose weight so that she'll look good for pictures? He'd be thrown to the lions.

You should be telling him how much you love him and that you think he looks good, right now. I bet he is feeling insecure and you're going to make him feel worse.

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There is no “gentle way” to bring up that you need your fiancé to lose weight quicker so that you can get photos taken for your website sooner.

View Quoted Comment This is a fair criticism. I’m always expressing that he’s a super babe, and I’ve never said anything about his weight. He says self-deprecating stuff sometimes, and I always reassure my attraction or state that I’m not where I want to be, but we’ll get there. Re-reading my post - I think I sound more bratty than intended... I sound very entitled and vain (which I am to an extent for having brought it up).

I was seeking advice on how to help him push along and stay motivated without expressing any negativity, but that doesn’t really come across. It’s always helpful and healthy to view things in reverse (how would I feel if he said anything like this about me). So thank you for the reminder and perspective. This thread has made me re-evaluate my attitude towards the whole thing. I didn’t think it’d help so much!

View Quoted Comment I think your heart was in the right place and your intentions were good. Some things, no matter how you word them, are just gonna come off the wrong way.

I’m sure both of you are going to look amazing in your photos! Just try to relax and not stress. Easier said than done I know when planning a wedding! ❤️