How to get over what goes wrong at your wedding

Breathe and let it go. I know it's hard when you've meticulously planned every detail and two backup plans for the day. Something happens (or doesn't when it should have) at every, EVERY, wedding. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that I'm a bit older than you and have racked up a few more wedding experiences. As a guest and an event planner, I've seen a groom faint, an officiant become lightheaded, a centerpiece candle ignite the tablecloth, a child swipe their finger through the cake before it was cut, some newlyweds did a send-off but forgot their license, a couple who held their reception aboard a dinner ship and the violinist who was supposed to play for their first dance got lost or caught in traffic and literally missed the boat's departure. Oh, and probably my favorite, when a friend caught her sister's cake when it toppled. Wait, there's also the MOB who had a round too many during cocktail hour and chose to speak her mind in the receiving line, and at the same wedding, the FOG's toast took a left turn into a political rant that was more than uncomfortable.

As the bride, I wasn't happy with the DJ arriving more than a half-hour late, and his efforts to sub in music for our cocktail hour when we'd given him a list and reiterated multiple times that wifi is essentially nonexistent at our venue, but he didn't believe us and thought he could improv. He also made sure to shoutout his company and self-promote, and left on time for his next gig. I also had an issue with my DOC offering to bring a steamer for my gown, but her team arrived before she did. They explained the steamer was in her vehicle, and when she did arrive (late), she never came to my room. Thank God I followed my intuition and brought the iron from my hotel room to the venue. I spent the first week debating whether to write reviews or vent, and husband convinced me to let it go. We've since had a friend ask who our DJ was. Instead of a referral, we gave the friend our playlist. I feel you. Enjoy what went right and know that your guests never noticed a thing!

You remember such is life and let it go. My grandma brought her own scotch to my dry wedding (this was not a surprise), got completely schnockered (also not a surprise), and threatened to kill my dad before my mom escorted her out the door. I also didn't like how I was holding my bouquet and it irritates me every time I look at the pictures. But we're married and it was a great day and that's what matters.

You know just from the sounds of these things, it sounds super minor!!

like it didn't seem like it was major things that you wouldn't be able to get over relatively soon when you think about the big picture. it sounds like your wedding overall went really well so i would just focus on that! it is so much easier sometimes to harp on the minute details that went wrong instead of focusing on the fact that there was so much good