Hi everyone!!! Stick with me here, because I reallllllly need advice on how to handle this situation. My wedding is on 7/31/21.
So one of my fiance's best friends and groomsman (referred to as GM for the sake of this explanation) has been dating a girl (GF) for a few years that I have gotten pretty close with. I had heard through other friends that they have been having some issues the last couple of weeks (we live out of the country currently, and though we still talk frequently with the couple they hadn't mentioned anything). My fiance's best man, who is also a close friend, told us last week that he thinks they unfortunately broke up two weeks ago and she left town for a bit, but that they are keeping it on the down-low because they are still living with each other and trying to sort through everything.
Before I had heard that they were possibly broken up, but in the timeframe after their supposed breakup, I had a conversation with GF about how excited I was to see her and she mentioned how excited she is for the wedding. Based on this conversation, I am assuming she still is coming (the invitation was addressed to both of them, not her as a plus one). However, our best man said feelings are really tense right now and he's not sure he would count on either of them being in the same room together happily.
Here is where I need advice on what to do. One, I'm not sure if she's coming, or if they've even broken up since no one has told us anything directly. How do I approach this subject with the couple without seeming insensitive or like I've been listening to gossip? Obviously, my fiance and I care about both GF and GM as friends and want to be there for them regardless of what is happening with the wedding. We are also on a tight budget and guest count and I don't really want to be paying for a plate that won't be used and we are running out of time to figure it all out. Also, as of right now I have them next to each other in the seating chart, but if they are broken up, obviously that won't do. Just in case they aren't broken up though, it would be so awkward if I moved her without confirming first. I was hoping one of them would mention it without prompting, however we have had normal conversations with both of them since and neither has said anything.
I need to ask one of them what their plan is without seeming too focused on the wedding, not empathetic of what they are going through, and hopefully pull this off without exposing that there has been some talk about their situation by others. I feel comfortable reaching out to her, and my fiance said he would talk to his groomsman, however what do we even say? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!