How to handle guests who didn’t gift?

Many people gift after the wedding. Some as late as 90 days. I'd be extremely polite and send them a thank you note for coming. At least they shared your special day with you. I know before I had to change my date that the friends and family coming from another country, flying however far, driving a long distance- we didn't even think about receiving gifts from them. Seeing them would have been the gift.

Yes it’s common. Yes it’s super rude. I assure you I’m in minority here but yes I do believe you should bring a gift to someone’s wedding.

Wedding's are expensive. I wouldn't let it bother you. I would just be happy that they came and celebrate on you're lovely wedding day.

Proper etiquette allows for guest to give gifts up to one year after attending the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Please just take a deep breathe. I understand your post has had some cold comments. If someone is way off base, remember you can flag their comment for review. Most people are very sweet on here, but I've found there is no sympathy when asking about what one should do about wedding gifts. You didn't mean to open a " can of worms." You were just curious. I hope my response didn't seen unkind, because it wasn't meant that way. I have learned one thing, never discuss wedding gifts, in general. Congratulations on your marriage!! Be happy!!💖💕💖💕

I thought this was an interesting discussion...

Personally, I have always given a card/gift and view it as customary. Now I have a pending small wedding, I truly understand....my joy is to have my love ones share our day/love. If some don't. I doubt I will send a card thinking them for attending. My plans are to do that in person and I spent extra on favors for them to enjoy.

View Quoted Comment People will tell you their honest opinion on here, just like you told us yours. I think the nature of the replies you got were based upon the fact that you expressed that you were “flabbergasted” that you didn’t receive gifts from a few people and almost felt like they took advantage of your generosity. If you had just asked if it’s common not to give gifts then the replies would have been more objective and less opinionated. On here opinions tend to be met with other opinions, whereas simple questions tend to receive simple helpful answers (unless the OP wants to do something that’s considered very rude). And people who are really struggling for reasons outside their control tend to receive a lot of kindness and support (although people are understandably much less sympathetic of people who put themselves in a bad position and then complain about it). Just something I’ve observed.

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This is 100% accurate.

View Quoted Comment This is correct. Guests do not need to be thanked for coming to any milestone occasion, wedding, funeral , whatever, people should come simply because they want to be there. The couple does not need lots of guests, and need not thank you. They are happy and want you, people they care about, to share their happiness. They do not need to thank you for making you happy. The reception is part of the event: First the solemn (ceremony) then the celebration ( reception.) Parts of the same thing. And the reception is not a thank you to guests, though I have heard that said, it is wrong. Hosts of any event have no need to thank guests. Properly, guests thank hosts for proving them with a special occasion to be happy, for food and drink and a nice setting to socialize. Couples owe thanks for gifts, only. And one hopes they are happy guests came but no thanks are due, not in the form of the reception, and not in thank you notes for coming. I wish wedding wire would put a subtitle on the etiquette and advice section header: Guests thank hosts, hosts do not thank guests. Until most couples get the message. Because so many trendy sources, including a few on WW, get it wrong. ( though most articles on WW get it right, any two articles may say opposite things.)

Edit : guests thank hosts for providing them with a special occasion. ( not proving)

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I find this interesting since this is the actual definition of wedding reception according to Wikipedia: A wedding reception is a party usually held after the completion of a marriage ceremony as hospitality for those who have attended the wedding, hence the name reception: the couple receive society, in the form of family and friends, for the first time as a married couple.

You didn't invite them just so they will bring you a gift.