EDIT: omg I didn't notice that my title got so butchered! lol I meant to say how to have a head table feel without actually having a head table.
It's one of the only wedding-related things that we have strong, opposing opinions on. All of my bridesmaids are coming from different states, so with a head table their poor plus ones will be sat with complete strangers after already traveling out of state to accompany their partner. Even worse, one of my bridesmaids is a single mom of 3 so we'd have to exclude her from the head table even though she's in the bridal party AND sit her with strangers!! We can't do a king's table, because with party members, plus ones, and kids we'd end up with a table of 28. That's almost 1/3 of our entire guest count and way too big to put anywhere but the middle of the room that was supposed to be the dance floor. So neither of us really like that idea.
But FH hates the idea of not having a head table where he gets to hang out with all his friends during dinner. I know online they're seen as outdated and rude, but here they're kind of the norm so me telling him reasons they're inconsiderate goes in one ear and out the other. 🙃🙃🙃 I'm trying to find some creative layout that allows him to still mess around and talk to all his groomsmen during dinner without actually having a head table or king's table. He also vetoed having a table with just BM + date and MOH + date. I'm out of ideas!