How to include a non Moh/best Man Toast

Assuming you’ve already asked your friends/they already offered, just had their speech to your timeline and let your DJ know so they can announce accordingly. I think that anyone can do a speech at your wedding if they want to and you want to as well.

Hello Ilana:

Our "welcome and thank you for coming speech" is the only one we're having at our reception ... but our MOH,Best woman and parents are giving one at the rehearsal dinner (we're having an open mic). If you're doing a RD, the friends (and whoever else) can give one at the RD.

However: are your parents and/or partner's parents giving a speech at your reception? I ask because if you're having the 5 traditional speeches: you+partner,MOH,BM, both dads or both sets of parents,: 7 speeches is too many unless they are super short. If the parents are not doing one, then the friends can easily give one at the reception.

View Quoted Comment Exactly! I am having a friend, who is not in the wedding party, give a speech. I wanted to still include her in some way, and she actually loves public speaking, so it worked out. I’m just letting the DJ know, as the PP recommended.


Alternatively, if you didn’t want to have more speeches, they could do a ceremony reading, or a blessing (secular or non) before the meal.

Go for it! I’d just ask your two friends to work on something together!

We also added a “friend toast” to our reception line-up! My husband’s best man was his dad, so he also asked his best friend (a groomsman) to give an additional speech at the reception. Our order was: father or the bride welcome, best man speech, maid of honor toast, then his friend’s toast!