How to include my step sisters in the ceremony???

How old are they?

View Quoted Comment Currently 21 and 16. They’ll be 22 and 18 by the wedding date. My sister by blood will be 16.

There aren't really other roles of honor to give people besides being a member of the WP or asking someone to do a reading. I'm not a fan of doing something like asking someone to pass out programs or be the guest book attendant because it's just a job that people know is meant as a consolation prize, and in all honesty, those are things that an attendant isn't really needed for. Guests know when they see programs on a table at the entrance, they should pick one up if they want one. Guests know when they see a guest book (or guest book alternative) with a pen, they should sign it. They don't need someone to awkwardly stand there with orograms or the guest book.

I'd consider that giving your stepsisters some kind of alternate job or made up role could potentially make them feel like they've been given a pity role. Treating them like an honored guest would make them feel more special. If you're close, do things like invite them to spend the morning getting ready with you, ask whoever is planning your bachelorette party to invite them, or ask if they'd like to join you and get their nails done with you a day or two before the wedding. Stuff that will make them feel like you want to share this with them and have them be part of your memories. If you're doing parents boutonnieres and corsages, maybe get them corsages, too, and make sure they sit in the front row or second row with your parents.

I have 8 sisters. The ones who are not bridesmaids have other parts to play. I have one carrying my train and two more serving as ushers/seating hostesses. Would those roles work for your ceremony?

Have them hold a “here comes the bride” sign. Generally you see kids holding it, but you can have them do it if you want them to be apart of the ceremony. Doesn’t even have to be a regular sign, they can come up with something fun. You can also ask your step parent to see what they think might be a good fit.

View Quoted Comment This really helped. I think I’ll just try to include them in a lot of the little stuff like that and get them corsages too. Thank you!

Hostess. 2 is better, helping your guests find the book to sign, knowledge of the venue o point them in the right direction for the coateoom, bathrooms, reception area, gifts. To be able to answer questions and help out where needed. To make them feel special, have a flower made for them to pin on or wear in their wrist.

Just include them in everything, dress shopping, RD, getting their nails done with you etc.

You chose to not put them into the BP and thats perfectly fine, but beyond a reading or passing programs, theres really nothing else for them to do. Including them in things would go a lot farther.