How to invite to bachelorette party

I always thought bachelorette parties were for bridal
party. I invited MOH’s bff (who’s also my friend) and FMIL’s friend (since FMIL is coming, she’s a lot of fun!)

MOH said we had 2 extra tickets for *somerhing* and if there was anyone we should invite. I let them decide

View Quoted Comment I agree that bridal party only is probably more standard, but one of my bridesmaids is a teenager and the other two are family who might not be able to make it. So that would leave me with one lol. And MOH and I don’t really have any mutual friends so she needs help with the list.

I have been invited to close friends bachelorette parties even when I wasn't in the BP. It's a fun night out with all your girls and if you don't want a huge BP, I see no problem with including other friends (I think my friends who invited me to their's would probably be upset if I didn't invite them to mine). I got everyone's email address and my MoH just sent an evite.

I gave my friend who was planning the bachelorette the email addresses of everyone I wanted to invite (two are friends who aren’t in the bridal party, and I’ve been to lots of bachelorette parties for weddings I wasn’t in!) and she emailed everyone to get input on dates and stuff. She did ask me a few questions along the way to make sure I was on board with some things, but for the most part she just took care of everything and planned it with the other girls. They have a secret email and text chain that I’m not part of 😉.

I think an email is perfect. You don't even really need to be involved in all the back and forth emails between the other girls, only if you WANT to. The other girls and your MOH will figure out who can come and go from there with planning. I think once you give your ideas you should be able to step away from it a bit. Just my opinion!

I’ve really only seen bachelorette/bachelor parties host the people in it (bridesmaids and groomsmen). If you wanna go different and have others there, go for it! But I think they should surprise you and not have you part of the planning process

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I agree with you! I'll gather the email addresses and phone numbers and let it go!

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I'm not planning events, but I definitely needed to help pick the date and guest list! A surprise night away from my house would cause nothing but stress for me, and it isn't really practical.

Since its just going to be the wedding party going to mine, we just stuck with setting it up in a group chat and left it at that. I don't think you have to be real formal with this kind of thing, just invite them like you'd invite them to a party

I’ve been invited to friends bachelorette parties before, I don’t think it needs to stay only within the wedding party.
I never got a formal invitation to those, was always email or text. I think it depends on how formal the host wants to make it. Either way questions and all that usually arise and then people end use texting/emailing away - so for this event I would go electronically.

My MOH is sending out mailed invitations. I am including my FSILs who are not bridesmaids as well as a few other friends!

I guess I didn’t really answer your question. She asked me if I had anything I’d like to do. I said nothing extravagant just dinner and a night out with the girls. We may get a hotel room for the night. We picked a day that worked for the all bridesmaids. She is just putting her phone number on the invites to get a count of who wants to split hotel rooms.

I’ve planned two bach parties and for both we just did emails (without the bride). And I’ve never heard of only bridesmaids at the bachelorette party, you can invite whoever you want!

View Quoted Comment No, your first answer was helpful too! It’s interesting to hear about everyone’s different experiences, as we aren’t too experienced with this!

View Quoted Comment That sounds great, thanks!
just curious now, did the bride provide you with the list of emails, or leave you alone to decide?

I am having my bridal party, and i invites my SILs and FSIL who aren’t in the wedding. I gave MOH everyone’s number as that is how our last two friends did it - text group. I am not in the bach party text group but my MOH asks questions or fills me in when needed

View Quoted Comment The bride sent me an email with the invite list and their email addresses.

My bridesmaids (I don't have a MOH) asked me for a list, I included the bridesmaids and three of my friends. We started an email thread together and then they started one without me to begin the planning.

I don't think it needs to be formal. However, it also depends on the group of gals you're having at your bachelorette party.

My sister did an e-vite for mine, so all she asked for was email addresses.

It's definitely not standard for a bachelorette to be bridal party only. I've been to plenty of bach parties where I was close with the bride but not in the wedding. It can be any close girlfriend that's invited to the wedding. I had 5 BMs, but 10 girls total at my bach.