How to offer a way to bow out

I would just leave it alone and let her come to you if she feels she can't be there. Even if it's a last minute decision, you don't need to scramble to replace her. You don't need sides to be even or a MOH specifically. Just ask one of the other girls to hold your bouquet at the alter and make sure someone other than your sister knows how to bustle your dress (those are really the 2 primary tasks a MOH does during the wedding).

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Let her make the decision for herself. Brides can be fixated on having sides even but it’s really not necessary.

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I appreciate your view on this, but its really important to me to have each side even. My FH's best man is our 4 year old son, and his groomsman is his brother. My 2nd bridesmaid is a good friend of mine, but not somOH that he's comfortable walking down the aisle with.eone my son has had a lot of interaction with. I feel like I need a back up M

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I appreciate your view on this, but it's really important to me to have each side even. My FH's best man is our 4 year old son, and his groomsman is his brother. My 2nd bridesmaid is a good friend of mine, but not someone that he's had a lot of interaction with. I feel like I need a back up MOH that he would be comfortable walking down the aisle with.

View Quoted Comment Why couldn’t your BM be escorted by both, all walk down alone, or have the two men walk together? I personally would think outside the traditional box if your sister is ultimately unable to make it rather than replace her.

View Quoted Comment In this instance I would have FH’s brother walk with your son, assuming your son is comfortable with him. Or have your son walk with you or your FH or one of your parents. There are plenty of non traditional options to go with if that is your main concern, which is understandable.

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I like your ideas! I need my future brother-in-law to walk my remaining bridesmaid down because she's blind, and the escort would ensure she makes it safely down the aisle. I might consider having my son walk down the aisle with me and my father, just on my left side.

I would just be honest with your sister. She might appreciate the out, instead of worrying she will upset you. Just tell her you would love to have her with you, but totally understand if she needs to be with her family.

If you and your sister have a close relationship I dont think she would see it as you trying to push her out. I would just explain that while you would love for her to be your MOH you also understand that the timing might cause issues and youre supportive of her making her grandbaby the priority.

Due dates are unpredictable and she might give birth 2 weeks early or 2 weeks late. Either way I think you'd be doing the right thing by letting your sister know that youre perfectly fine if she needs to back out.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I’m hoping she will feel that way. I don’t want her to feel like she has to choose between the both of us.

View Quoted Comment I think I’ll be sure she knows there’s no hard feelings if she wants to back out once my niece hits her 2nd trimester.