How to Pick a Wedding Date Around my Period

Just pick a date and pray lol. my wedding is in less than 3 months and I'm supposed to START the day of my wedding. Things happen and unless youre willing to use birth control to skip your period that month, theres really no way to pick a period free date 18 months away.

I 100% feel you on this & it’s literally my worst fear for our wedding! I have endometriosis and my periods are beyond miserable, painful, and heeeeaaaaavy. And, like you, although they are considered “regular” they still regularly come a few days early or a few days late. I discussed this with my Gyno, and she strongly recommended using birth control pills the month prior and the month of the wedding, to ensure it wouldn’t be an issue. You are correct about the IUD- You can continue having periods with them, as well as spotting, breakthrough bleeding, and some people have continuous bleeding for weeks or months at a time until their body gets used to it. Everyone’s body is different, and there is just no way to predict how yours will react. Absolutely hate the idea of hormonal birth control, and I am even considered high risk since I have experienced blood clots in the past, but taking it for such a short amount of time should not pose a serious risk of side effects. And for me the small risk is worth the pay off, because if it is my time of month during the wedding, the entire thing will be absolutely ruined and I will spend my wedding day and night in bed with multiple heating pads and on prescription pain meds. Also, with such a short time taking them, mood swings are very unlikely. Hormonal acne, however, is definitely a risk! So do be aware of that if you decide to take BC and have a game plan with your makeup artist! (or, worst case scenario, have your photographer edit out any noticeable blemishes)

I'd say if you're not willing to use something to skip your period, then plan with your usual average of two days per month. It might be wrong, but it's probably the best chance you can have otherwise.

As others have mentioned, it’s tough to plan around a period so far into the future without taking a birth control. And if your period is regular/predictable, this can change along the way if you have stress, weight fluctuation, medications, etc. Last time I was stress, my period was a week late.

You can absolutely still get your period on an IUD. However, thats not the only form of hormonal birth control that can stop your period. The pill, the ring, the patch, the injection, the arm implant, etc. are all ways that can delay. However, if you do not want to go the hormonal birth control route, then dont. Starting a new birth control method can be hard and if youre only concerned about one day its probably not worth the potential toll it can take on your body. Predicting this far out is nearly impossible. I would just choose a date you like, hope for the best, and try to track as accurately as you can leading up to the day and make sure youre prepared if youre running close.

Girl you cycle could change in a few months. It is almost impossible to time that correctly. Birth control is an option to just skip your cycle for that month of the wedding.

It’s impossible to predict. Especially that far out when anything can happen. There are various apps that record your cycle. If you have an IPhone one of the pre-installed features is the Health widget which will track your cycle and give a rough estimate of when it will start the next month. But that doesn’t guarantee that it will be the exact day 18 months into the future. Cross your fingers and move forward with picking a date. Stress will keep it at bay.

The Mirena IUD pretty much stops your period. Skyla gives you a super light period. Absolutely get the numbing shot if you're getting an IUD. The hormones stay local to your uterus.


That being said, I'd only go on hormonal birth control because you want it long term, not to control your period for one day. I'd also start it sooner rather than later to make sure you adjust well to it.
I was very opposed to hormonal b/c but I'm on my second Skyla now. Getting Mirena next time.

I'm surprised there aren't more conversations about this! I too am super worried about being on my period on my wedding, at least not on a heavy bleeding day. I got off of birth control 2 years ago because I personally found it really hard to lose weight on the pill, and I don't want to get back on it. I am just going to hope and pray that my period stays consistent until our wedding this coming October (2022), because then the wedding would technically be 1 week before my scheduled period that month. I use the Clue App to track and it's pretty good at predicting when your period is coming up to 3 months in advance. Crossing my fingers and hoping for the best I guess lol.

I’m doing fertility treatments and the dr uses birth control to control my cycle so she can time things and they’re not up to chance. I took active pills for 5 weeks (skipped the placebo pills) and it held off my cycle. If you want to hold it off and your dr oks it, I would go that route. But it’s probably pretty hard to predict and plan this far out.

Ugh, I very much hear you - I don't want my period on the day either, and it's looking pretty likely - we are now 2 months out and the next cycle is going to give a fair indicator of how screwed and bloody the day will be, haha.

I did ask a doctor about my best options but she wasn't my normal doctor and I'm not confident in the advice she gave which was pretty much 'yeah, there's nothing you can do'.

If I were you, I would look into soft discs if you do think you're going to have your period and don't want to use the pill (I don't either for a few reasons) - they are by far the most comfortable sanitary item I've used and make me feel least like I actually have my period, with least amount of leaking or disaster - they're basically a soft plastic disposable disc that's inserted and forms a seal. They last for about 12 hours without needing to be changed and you can't really feel them once they're properly settled. I haven't tried a cup before, but I never liked the idea of the stem part, I guess this just turned me off, as does the idea of having to boil it clean... whereas the soft discs don't have anything like that. I'm sure they're not as good for the environment, but for my wedding day, I will take whatever convenience I can get!

I would just set a date and hope for the best. If you are looking for hormonal birth control it would need to be estrogen based in order to have full control over your cycle (pill, patch, ring, etc.). With an IUD (which does not contain estrogen), either your period will stop altogether, or it will probably be so light that it won't matter, so you are correct that you can still have your period. However, it is still a big step and you have to ask yourself is it really worth it, since there's no telling how your body will respond.

I'm trying to work around this too, however, I'm SUPER regular, only planning 6 months out, and we're planning the wedding hoping for a honeymoon baby. 18 months is REALLY far out. I honestly think you should just pick a date and go with the flow (lol).


However, I will say that I've seen PlanB tossed around as an early hormone interruptor to guarantee you have your period before the wedding. I'm not one to mess with my hormones like that though. I have a copper IUD.

I can’t help with date planning but i can say that I have had 3 IUDs. I had a period for the first 6 consecutive weeks after insertion of the first one. Since then i have had a total of maybe 6 days of spotting in 11 years.

Im 1000% going to be in my period and I figured oh man unlucky it is what it is. Hadn’t thought of birth control! Physician appt today!

I planned the date we actually wanted and my doctor told me to skip my placebo pills for two months (this was 6 months before our date) and that moved my period 2 weeks. It turned out perfect.

There’s an app called Flo that predicts when your upcoming periods are (like months in advance). It predicts it based on past cycle lengths and period lengths so the more data you feed it, the better the predicting becomes. So, if you’re on average 2 days late, it takes that into account. If you’ve been tracking when your period begin, I think you can back date it so it will move the predictions for future months.

Haha you had me checking my app to see if I have my period on my wedding day. Whew it’s right smack in the middle lol! That’s good because I usually balloon the days leading up to my period and my dress probably won’t fit me lol.