So I have a future mother in law, who I LOVE, who is being so helpful, and who is also footing most of the wedding bill....BUT, I'm having a hard time getting MY voice heard over her "you have to do it this way" chatter. She sees my vision, and she really does help, but I find myself feeling backed into corners, doing extra wedding planning work that I don't feel is necessary just because she claims "it's how you have to do it"...everything from who we HAVE to invite to what we HAVE to serve with dessert to how we just MUST have inner and outer envelopes for the invitations. It's 2014 and a lot of wedding "traditions" and etiquette are out dated and I don't know how to tell her that I'm just not the traditional bride. I don't want to hurt her feelings OR lose her support...or her wallet! Help!