How to say no kids nicely?

So I put it in our Q&A section on our website. It says “are kids welcome? -> While we love your little ones, our wedding is going to be an adults-only event so that everyone can relax and enjoy the evening.” Since you’re doing specifically over 21 I would mention that age somewhere in there. Also when I comes to invites, be clear when you address them and put “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe” don’t put “The Doe family”. Try to be ask specific as possible wherever you can.

Definitely be clear when you send the invites who you are addressing them to. Our RSVP will say ___ of # adults attending, and we are including something on our website about how children are not invited. If anyone tries to argue just say that you decided you're not inviting anyone over 21 and just leave it at that.

Invitations are for who is invited, not who isn't. You can be specific with RSVP cards about how many seats are reserved, though. If they add "seats" in, call and nicely explain that the kids aren't invited. You could put information about no kids on a wedding website.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. My husband and I did the same thing, we put it on our wedding website & also through word of mouth we've verbally told people as well

Hi ! There are some phrases that I've seen that give the hint nicely and directly :

"Your kids will be surely pleased to babysitt their grand-parens that evening"

"Spend this day with us with no dipers or crying - think about a nanny for that day"

"Have a great adults only evening with us"

"Save the date and call you sitter"

You can also suggest some things :

"Our venue with a pool is not suitable for young children"

"We don't provide a sitter"

"We adore your kids, we will love to see them another time"

"Give your kids an adults free weekend !"

Or make a RSVP card with a sentence : "The 2 of us will be attending..."

This is one thing you definitely need to make clear. I'd state that although we love everyones kids it will be a 21 an older adult celebration. Unfortunately you will probably find people trying to make their little one an exception to the rule. You just need to put your foot down with them.

We were more blunt about it. We put on the invitation on the information card 18 and older adult only celebration. No kids no exceptions! We also put it on our website. And we put on the rsvp card that we saved x amount of seats for you. We have been to one wedding before that was supposed to be adult only but ended up having some kids because the parents weaseled their kids in. We knew that we would have guest try and pull the same bs with their kids so we decided to be very blunt.

View Quoted Comment Definitely put it on the RSVP card because some people won't get the message just from the invite wording. I'm doing "2 seats have been reserved in your honor" with no blank line for them to put the number. Then they will RSVP on our website and only the adults' names will come up.

Our guests got the hint when the invitation was only addressed to the parents and not "The [insert last name here] Family." We also added "__ number of guests" to the RSVP card, but I think that ended up being more confusing than it was worth - in hindsight, I would've added a "__/# number of guests" with me writing the number invited on the right and them writing the number attending to the left, to be extra clear.

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YESSSSS! Exactly.

You address the invitation to the adults only and clearly state on your website that it is a kids free wedding. We used the language "Invited guests only, please no children."

HI there!

Ours is a adult only reception. However kids are welcomed to the church ceremony.

This is how we worded it on our wedding website:

"Kids are welcomed to the church wedding ceremony. Unfortunately, the reception is adults-only. We appreciate you making child care arrangements ahead of time in order to celebrate with us. Make it a date night!"

We also out on our invitations " ___ of 2" to make sure our guest know only two guests per invite.

If you don't want anyone under 21 I would honestly, but just that on your wedding site.

Hope this helps!

Sam

We did online RSVPs and the only options under "how many guests are attending" were "I will be coming alone" and "there's two of us"... Also we put it in our FAQ that the venue is not suitable for a sitter or a kid's corner and that we will not be providing entertainment for children or a children's menu. The only people who hat a problem with that are parents of teenagers! who insist that it would be such a wonderful event for their daughters... But we just said that we would have to see if someone cancels at that table, because we have not considered their daughters (who we have met twice... At the most) while booking the venue. So yeah, just get used to stupid questions.