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How To Successfully Walk Halfway Down the Aisle Alone??

Chelsea, on February 14, 2020 at 9:41 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 5

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Hi everyone!

I’ve never really wanted to be given away and always pictured myself walking alone down the aisle. When I told my dad this (we aren’t super close due to him living far away and other reasons) he freaked out. Said I would be embarrassing him and I should just have a court house wedding if I wasn’t going to do the traditions.
After talking to his wife (my stepmom, the voice of reason) he sincerely apologized and said he was just hurt that I didn’t want him to be part of it.He’s even making a special trip to come see me in a month (we live 13 hours away). So I’ve forgiven and am trying to be flexible and reconsider some ideas.
It’s a garden wedding so there’s some green space to walk before getting to the rows of chairs. I’m considering having him and my mom walk me across the open garden space to where the chairs start. Then walking the rest of the aisle by myself.
Thoughts on this? Where would my mom and dad go after I start walking by myself? I like the idea but am having trouble knowing how it would work logistically.
Thanks!!

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Latest activity by Meghan, on February 14, 2020 at 2:19 PM

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Chantal · on February 14, 2020 at 10:11 AM
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Hi Chelsea!
I totally understand how you're feeling, and it's very nice of you to take his feelings into account and compromise. I haven't seen an example of EXACTLY what you're thinking, but I have seen a couple different versions of ladies who have two dads/two moms in their lives that they have to "switch."
1) You could have them both walk you through the open space as you said and then they could go ahead of you as a couple and take their seat in the front, and then you could follow them.
2) They could walk you through the open space to the chairs and then you could go ahead of them (they would need to wait for you to make it to your officiant and then go around the back way to their seats so they weren't distracting).
Not sure if either of these ideas sound good to you, just suggestions. And like I said, it's very kind of you to compromise for him It sounds like he loves you and wants you to be happy, and I'm sure in the long run whatever you decide to do will feel like a smaller piece in the big picture of you and your FH having a perfect day!
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Sara · on February 14, 2020 at 10:18 AM
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I also want to do this!!! I think i’m going to have my dad walk my to where the chairs start, have him go ahead of me to his seat, and then walk the rest of the way by myself (which isn’t too far of a walk lol but oh well). I’m wanting to do this for picture purposes (bc i want solo pictures of me walking down the isle) and because it’s gonna be hard with my dress to hold my veil, my flowers, my dress up, and my dads arm! I’m glad you posted this because I was also looking to see if anyone else had done this
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Tanyia · on February 14, 2020 at 10:23 AM
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I like the idea of both of them walking you, but I would do it staggered. It could resemble how he has been in your life. What if dad walks you out... to middle of the aisle, kisses you -- and moves aside. Then your mom (who is standing on the side in the middle of the aisle -- watching you two as you walk towards her), takes your hand from there, and you walk hand in hand to her seat (which is front row near the altar anyway) -- where she kisses you, and you take the final steps to your FH - who is at the altar?
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Rebelle Fleur · on February 14, 2020 at 12:20 PM
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I also wanted to do this but I’m afraid it would hurt my fathers feelings. We are very very close but like you I always pictured walking out by myself and him walking with my mother.
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Meghan · on February 14, 2020 at 2:19 PM
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I think it would look better if you walked alone to the chairs, where they were waiting for you. Then, they walked with you the rest of the way. Once at the alter, they break off to their seats while the music still plays. That way, no one is “giving you away” because the officiant never asks the question.
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