How to survive a marriage with an Angry husband

Im not a professional neither are you thats why this is a discussion

Exactly! who knows who proposed to these girls or why but obviously they think they're still dating to just hop up and leave the second things get tough. Say no to the proposal if you know you're not sticking to vows. True physical abuse isn't acceptable and i'd hope she'd know that a forum isn't 911

If it was as bad as people are translating it to be i doubt shed be sitting around asking "I'm getting beat up what do i do???"

Which is why you shouldn't be telling a victim that divorce isn't an option.

Unfortunately, I see red flags all around. He does not seem willing to get the help he needs, and if this slides, it will only escalate and may turn into physical abuse.

Wow, that's a really inconsiderate thing to say to someone you don't even know just because they disagree with you.

Emotional abuse is a lot more draining and damaging than physical abuse. I've been there. If you knew anything about psychological disorders, then you wouldn't be sitting there saying this. Everyone else here agrees that their relationship is beyond the point of "just sticking it out" when things get tough. This is a pretty serious situation that needs to be taken seriously. Unfortunately, people like you are part of the problem, not the solution. I cannot believe you are making light of this and seemingly mocking this poor woman. I'm honestly quite disgusted with what you've said.

I'm not going to read every reply in this thread.

I grew up in an abusive house. This is how it started. My dad yelled at my mother. My dad put her down. Made it so she thought less of herself. That she was nothing without him. No one would love her besides him. Then I came along, guess who became his punching bag? Me.

He later started hitting her when I moved out.

You need to leave. He will not change, he will not stop treating you like this. He was never going to change, his plan was to do what he needed to do to get you, then it would be "too late."

My husband would never dream of yelling at me like this. Never think of placing a hand on me in any kind of anger. If he is so angry he doesn't want to be touched, he moves away.

First off counseling is important, but it needs to be seperate. It is recommended to never do joint/couples counseling with your abuser. Abusers will use the things brought up and terminology from counseling against their victims. Also, anger management and programs for abusers are only helpful when the abuser seeks them out on their own.

I highly recommend you check out loveisrespect.org and take the quiz. Most abusers escalate/show their abusive tendencies after major life changes (moving in together, marriage, pregnancy/childbirth). Physical abuse can also include breaking things, physical intimidation, punching things, or refusing you to leave or giving you space. Him pushing you, holding you down or restraining you is abuse. It's important to realize abuse escalates and there is a cycle to abuse. Abusers act loving after they abuse you so you don't leave.

Ask yourself, does he treat his boss like he treats you? Does he curse at his coworkers or push/hold them down when he disagrees with them? Does he treat other people how he treats you? If he can control himself at work and outside of your home he can control himself around you. He is making a conscious decision to treat you poorly.

If you are being physically abused you need to leave asap. Go to a family member or friends house and seek a divorce lawyer. Also if you don't have a gun yet, I'd advise learning how to shoot and buying one since a PFA is only a piece of paper (which does nothing). I am against divorce in most instances, but physical abuse should never be tolerated, whether it's pushing you off a couch or slamming you to the ground, which unfortunately might lead to. Please seek help from a family member or friend and leave.

This ^^^^^

I normally try to be open to everyone's opinions and to not post disparaging remarks on these forums but this post made me really upset.

This was an incredibly ignorant thing to say and thinking like this is part of the problem we have in this country right now.

Chrissy is clearly trying to maintain her marriage vows but the possibility that she may have to leave if things don't change cannot be ignored.

There are so many abused women out there who are afraid to speak out. It isn't as easy to just leave as everyone thinks and there actually are many abused women who do ask "I'm getting abused what do I do?"

It was incredibly courageous and a really important step for Chrissy to ask for help. It isn't our place to judge the severity of abuse in anyone's case but the bottom line is abuse is abuse and anyone reaching out for help shouldn't be mocked.