How to tell a Groomsmen that he need to cover up his face tattoos

You don’t. Those tattoos are now a part of him. It’s part of who he is, which you knew before he was asked to participate in the wedding. It will not take away from your pictures at all!

No one does. Fiance asked him to be included for a reason. You cannot and do not ask someone to change their body to fit your pictures. These are people not props. Your photographer can airbrush them out later.

There really isn't a nice way to do this. If they really bother you, I'd have your photographer airbrush them out of your photos like Michelle suggested. I know I don't like my sister's tattoos, but they are a part of her and I just dealt with them.

I totally agree with having your fiancé be the one to speak to him, since it is his close friend. I also think he should be the one to decide how to make the request since he knows him best. However, as the previous poster pointed out, those tattoos are now a part of him, and you do run the risk of offending him or him denying your request. If he does not feel comfortable covering the tattoos, I think you need to be prepared to let it go and accept his appearance the way it is.

I plan on talking to the photographer, but I was curious on everyone's thoughts

View Quoted Comment This is a very good point about the photographer being able to airbrush them out. Maybe you could just have him leave the tattoos, and have the photographer airbrush out a few photos that you wish to share or display in your home. This gives you the opportunity to have the photos you display look the way you would like them to, and also gives your fiancé the opportunity to have photos of his friend looking like his authentic self

I agree with the others that I would ask your photographer to airbrush them out instead during the photo-editing process

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That is probably what I will do

This is a conversation that should have happened between you and FH when he was choosing his groomsmen if you had an issue with it. There’s no polite or reasonable way to ask him to cover them.

If you don’t want someone with face tattoos to be in your wedding, then don’t ask someone with face tattoos to be in your wedding. This is so incredibly rude. What’s up with the couples on here asking their friends to change their appearance in order to be in their wedding?

I really don't think there is a way to ask him to cover his tattoos without coming off as controlling.

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I was asking opinions, I'm not forcing him to change his appearance.

View Quoted Comment You don’t ask him to cover up this is who he is would you ask your maid of honor to cover up a birthmark unless it says something proactive I’d let it go

View Quoted Comment I think I am going to talk to the photographer instead. The good new is that it isn’t anything offensive

If you’re going to have the photographer airbrush the tattoos off his face, please let him know before you show him any pictures. As someone who has a fair amount of tattoos, and has a lot of friends who are heavily tattooed, I would be shocked and upset if my friends had my tattoos edited out of photos.

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But you are trying to force him to change his appearance. Those tattoos are part of an appearance he chose. Asking him to cover the tattoos is like someone asking you to cut/dye your hair to be in their wedding.

Why does it matter if he's got them for pictures? Are you planning on printing and framing the photos he'll be in?

Also, I'd still want a conversation to be had about the tattoos before you airbrushed them. If I was in a friend's wedding photos and they shared pictures and all of my tattoos were suddenly gone I'd be really upset. My tattoos are part of me, and part of who I am.

Take a step back from the 'perfection' of your wedding day and realize that you're trying to alter a living breathing person who has feelings. No one worth knowing is going to care that one of the GM has a face tattoo. If you can interact with him on a regular basis without having a problem, it really shouldn't been any different on your wedding day.

View Quoted Comment Yeah this is a really good point. That would be quite the shock. Regarding airbrushing, fwiw I think that’s a bad idea anyways. You’re going to have this photo on display, but anyone close to the situation will see it and think... “didn’t Ryan have tattoos at this wedding? Huh that’s weird.” In trying to make him blend in, you’re making him stand out. Plus, this is a photo with your closest friends! Even if he does cover it up with makeup, he’s gonna have tattoos on his face before the wedding and he’s gonna have tattoos on his face after the wedding. A photoshopped picture to remove the tattoos doesn’t reflect this person, at least the real-life version of them.

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Same! There's been so much disrespect on the forums here lately for the people in wedding parties. Like. I get that this is likely going to be the most photographed moment of your life, but it's not going in a magazine. It's going to go on social media, and the photos of you and your family that you love might get printed and go on the wall.

We're so sold on the picture perfect, magazine ready wedding that I feel like people are starting to really lose sight on the bigger picture and focus way too closely on the little details.

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I am not going to force anyone to change their appearance, I kind of worded to discussion incorrectly, I was more or less asking opinions

What is with all the brides this week who hate how their friends look? Seriously, these posts are becoming really, really depressing. Brides, love your friends and value your relationships above all else. Your friendships will be around long after your wedding has come and gone. Those tattoos are part of who he is...just like a birthmark, a larger than average nose, an unfortunate injury, etc. Please, be kind, be respectful. If you want picture-perfect Pinterest photos, I guess ask your prettiest acquaintances to be in your wedding party instead of your actual closest friends. I really don't know any other solution, but judging and shaming someone for their appearance for the sake of your photos is not it.