How to tell a Groomsmen that he need to cover up his face tattoos

It’s your FH best friend and you are worried about your photos and videos. Agree with most PP. You’re totally out of line.

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I don't have tattoos but I have a noticeable birthmark on my face, and I would be incredibly hurt if I was asked to cover it up or if it was airbrushed out

View Quoted Comment Extremely well put. We need this posted on every one of these awful threads about forcing your wedding party to change how they look for you

View Quoted Comment Agreed. My grandfather removed my aunts tattoos in a family photo and she was not happy.

View Quoted Comment There were a ton of those this week? Dang, I should come on more often.

You’re either going to have to accept that the pictures will show his tattoos or you need to ask
The photographer to photoshop it out or if it’s a small area maybe he might be open to wearing make up. My good friend is in my wedding as a bridesmaid, it’s only her and my sister and that was something I accepted from the start. I knew she had sleeve tattoos on both arms but it’s more important having her be part of my day. She even offer to cover her arms in make up for me without me asking but I told her it’s okay. If it bothers you that much maybe do a couple of shots without that particular groomsmen, otherwise ask the photographer for a photoshop. But that won’t fix the videos. So it’s really up to you and your husband and how close y’all are to him.

Nope. Your groom knew he had them when he asked him to be in the party. They come with him. Unless they are tattoos he is trying to remove, or have hate symbols in them, asking him to cover them up comes across as not liking him as he is. It could be friendship ending.

DITTO for altering the photos.

No one will notice, I promise, they'll be looking at you and your groom.

View Quoted Comment You missed my point. In my opinion the majority isn't 100% but 50 because this same majority thinks it's perfectly okay to dictate how to look and dress, including,shoes, accessories do their hair/nails, jewelry, suspenders, etc ... but not okay to cover the tattoos up.
It's a double standart but nobody noticed this.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. It is rude. Either dont or don't have him be a groomsmen

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Half isn't a majority. But tbh I have not seen what you are describing. From my understanding of reading most post, most brides are quite flexible with the look they going for. There are brides who insist on matching attire, accessories, hair/makeup, but they seem to be the minority because they are so vocal about requiring a matching look for their day.

It could be argued the matching shoes/robes/jewelry for getting ready pics falls into that but again I haven't seen that many.

View Quoted Comment Let's try this way:
When you pick robes, tux/suits and shoes for your WP, especially when you also pick the style and color( including when you're allowing them to pick different shades), when a bride want their girls ,groomswomen/best woman to have their hair and make up professionaly done you don't care about their style and their wants at all, right?
(Regardless of who is paying).So why would it be any different when it comes to tattoos?It's a double standart in my humble opinion. Because when brides and groom dictate anything about outfits,accessories, they only think about their photos.

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This is so well said, I wish this were required reading for every bride and groom

View Quoted Comment Some posts, every person who replies to the poster DOES think that the BM/gm should do their hair as they are told, wear the jewelry as they are told, not their personal jewelry. They support brides getting whatever they want for the day, including chemical tans, recently. And " working on makeup " to deal with tattoos. ...☹️An awful lot of people don't get it. And almost every te someone pops up with a genuine ?, do I pay for hair, or my ladies, or any variation, multiple people immediately say, if you are REQUIRING them to wear it a certain way...blah blah, not seeing, that you cannot require someone anything. Supply the HMU, or not, bride does not buy the privilege of dictating how the stylist does their hair and makeup. brides seeing visions may not require anyone to match those visions. A simple point many brides do not get.

View Quoted Comment Asking someone to wear a blue dress or a tux is obviously different than asking someone to change their actual body to fit your "vision"

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Definitely agree. My point is about thise and about an annoying fact: the double standart!
Those who think it's okay to dictate how to dress, to accessorize the outfits, to do their hair,make up ... Are the very same who are offended by this request . Either you're annoyed by both or by none of them.Plus: the matching/coordinating outfits and accessories thing are only made for a couples photos ...My partner and I are paying for their attire,hair,make up but we decided from the get go that we wiml only require them to pick "an appropriate" outfit, no color,style,hairstyle,accessories requirements/restrictions.

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It's not different since:
#1: You don't care about their tastes, their body shape/silouhette (especially about girls ) and sometimes you require them to wear a color they dislike.#2: This bride wants him to cover them up not him to remove them,right? She doesn't ask him to change his body anyways.I mean for a 6-7 hours #3: They only dictate how the WP members have to dress and accessorize the outifit because they want stunning pics, nothing else. (Nothing wrong with that, but it's a real fact).

You cant ask him to do this. Theyre part of who he is, and Im assuming hes special to you or your FH if hes in your wedding party. This will almost definitely offend him. If it really bothers you ask your photographer if they can be photoshopped off

Everything you explained that you don’t want to do to that groomsman, is exactly what you’d be doing if you asked him to cover his tattoos. Your FH knew he had face tattoos when he asked him to be a groomsman. So when you look back on your photos, i hope you’d prefer to remember everyone exactly as they are... and not how you forced them to be. Also, I hope that Groomsman never sees photoshopped pics of his tattoos removed. That’s just as bad.

If you're not asking people who aren't a size 2 to lose weight (or asking your photographer to photoshop their bodies) then I certainly wouldn't ask this GM to cover them up or ask the photographer to photoshop them out either. #awkward

View Quoted Comment You say nothing wrong with that. 🙂I, and a lot of us, think that it is absolutely horrendous that many brides want to manipulate bridal party members looks, just to create stunning pictures.