I'm struggling with a situation I'm in - I'm a covid bride - originally going to get married Sept 2020 but now spring 2021 so about 6 months away. We got engaged Nov 2019 - pretty soon after we decided wanted to have a friend marry us (fully legal in our state just need to apply for a liscense). We asked a mutual fried of ours to be our officiant, before the end of 2019... Fast forward to now, this friend and I just had a major clash in our friendship and I'm no longer ok with them marrying us. On top of that, since we initially asked them to officiant, my partner and her haven't stayed close, if anything he's distanced himself from her. So the situation I'm in is that I don't think I'll reach a point where I'll be comfortable having her marry us. She's also very prone to not following through which has my FH incredibly stressed about so that's just adding to this gut feeling.
Due to covid we've sliced our guest list in half, had to change the food/drinks and switch around the venue layout serval times which is just making me so stressed. I don't want to have to worry about this officiant as well forgetting to get licensed in my state (because that is 10000% a situation that could happen to us).
Also, my FH expressed he would rather have one of his closest friends marry us as we only have 2 bridal party - best man and woman as a way to include him. This friend is incredibly responsible so any stress I have about the ceremony would disappear with him being our officiant.
How do I bring this up to our current officiant? What advice do you have on telling someone they are no longer going to be the officiant? They'd still be on our guest list so I'm not uninviting them to the wedding but would rather them just be a guest and be there to celebrate with us.