How to word a no children invite?

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There are hundreds of old threads that might be a resource for you. Basically, it is not polite to say who is NOT invited on an invitation. Address the invitations by name to those who are invited, and indicate how many seats are allotted on the rsvp card.

If you use online rsvp's you can set it up so people can't respond for more people than were invited.

If someone crosses out the number on the rsvp and changes it or adds their kids, you contact them and say " There must have been a misunderstanding. The invitation was for ___ and ___. We are unable to accommodate the children. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

Do not give reasons or make excuses. It just opens the door for arguments. And please don't say anything about how you think the parents should have a night of partying without their children. That is so patronizing, especially if it is coming from someone without children.

View Quoted Comment I'll take a look, thank you! I really appreciate the tips im kind of at a loss haha

View Quoted Comment I'd decline right then. I don't need to be told how to spend my time or to be away from my kids. If I wanted a night to ourselves we wouldn't spend it at a wedding.

I do not think there is any perfect way of saying that. However people have to understand a wedding is about the bride and groom and is very expensive. That everyone the bride and groom loves may not be invited. Yet it is still
a day to celabrate the love of the b and g. ( yes I am having kids at my wending but we don’t have a lot of them)

I was invited to my cousins wedding and she had on the bottom of her RSVP cards a note about how kids were not invited due to space but they hoped we’d come and consider it a date night. We are having a kid free wedding but haven’t figured out how we will say it yet.

I am doing the same! My wedding is a beach package deal deal so my seats are limited. I don’t want to say “Dont bring the kids” so I’m telling everyone in casual conversation “Our wedding is a parents night out.” Every single one has been excited about that then I follow up with the limited seating explanation. We are having a fairly small wedding with close family and friends so I feel comfortable doing that and everyone is very supportive. Depending on the size and formality of your wedding, it may be different for you.

On our RSVPs we put "we reserved ___ seats in your honor" and addressed invites directly to the parents only, so there's no mistake.

As a PP said, there are hundreds of posts about this same thing. Simply address the invitation to whoever is invited. No need to say who isn’t.

I would say sorry no child will b attending the wedding. Maybe you can rent a hotel room and help with the cost of hiring some sitters for your guest who have children?

I recently went to a wedding and the invite said, "Adults only". People still brought children.

I too had an Adult Only Event and that's how I worded the invites.
Adults Only Reception

I do think it's very rude to tell adults how they should spend their time.

We addressed the invites to the adults, pre filled out the RSVPs with their names and left them a place to check which dinner they wanted. Additionally, we added in a details card that said the venue won't accommodate anyone under 16 for the ceremony or reception, with the same information on the website.

I did everything but write it in the sky.

“Adult Reception to follow”

I made sure to address my invitations to the parents only and their response card stated how many seats are reserved in their honor. I also have the wording on my reception cards and the website that says "While we love the little ones, this is an adults only affair.".
I understand that some people think that's rude to list that children are not invited but I don't think it's right for the parents to assume their children are invited. Most weddings are child-free unless they are children of the bride and groom, the nephews or the nieces of the Bride or groom. That is a common thing.

View Quoted Comment The wedding is about two people joining their lives, and some people can't afford to have children at a wedding due to number of people allowed or price per plate per person for a caterer. You don't have to be rude about the fact a couple is choosing to have a wedding based on what they want, and it's hardly rude for them to do so.

View Quoted Comment Were really limited in space since it's a tiny back yard so it's no more than 50 people total. I like the casual conversation thing. Plus we dont have the funds to feed them. Our wedding total is 3k and the catering price is nearly a 3rd of that... so it was the best financial decision we had. I wish you luck!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Dakota. It's really about space and finances. I love love love my aunts kids and babysit them often and my uncles kids are so well behaved. But there are so many more children and we just cant afford it.

It's rude to say "adults only" anywhere on the invite. It's rude to highlight who's not invited. It's rude to tell people what they should/shouldn't want. It's your responsibility to invite only the people who you want to be invited to your wedding. It's the responsibility of people with children to decline an invite or get a babysitter.

Don't get babysitters for people, don't have a "kids room", don't tell parents you want them to have "a night out without the kids". Ugh. So rude. So patronizing.