Huge vent long post mom created more drama

I honestly feel like if you choose to still invite/include her, no parents should be walking down the aisle.

My mom can be all drama as well and the only parent walking in our processional is my father- who is walking with me.

As far as her overstepping so many times, I think next time she threatens not to come say- "Okay I will mark you off the guest list, have a good one." Don't let her continually walk all over you and bully you with empty threats like she is used to. Now is as good of a time as any to set healthy boundaries moving forward.

As far as your cousins I would reach out, apologize, but also let them know it was all written in anger two years ago. Then leave the ball in their court.

Do not let anyone ruin your day! If your mom chooses not to attend your wedding well then, it's her lose. Focus on you and your FH because for one you already apologized and that was two years ago. Come on... we are all adults and that was the past, you owned it. If your mom doesn't want to attend then just say you understand and you will put her down as not attending. I would reach out your cousins and own it and move on. Don't let anyone ruin your day, this is all about you and your FH.

I agree with Melinda. Just have your dad walk you down. There are wedding traditions but you do not have to do any of them. I am not having a wedding party at all. My dad will walk me down. My mother will be seated. The fact that your mother used what you wrote in the forums against you is so beyond a violation of privacy. I must say I have seen you in the forums a lot. And you are so excited for this day. Do not let them spoil this.

Honestly stop trying to placate your mom. Draw boundaries. If she threatens not to come, use Melinda's suggestion.

I'm sad this all got dredged up with your cousins, argh.

I am sorry your mom sent the screenshots to your cousins - that was wrong and you do not deserve that. Hopefully they are mature enough to accept a "I am sorry that was said as a vent to neutral parties and I never intended your feelings to get hurt. I am sorry my mother has created this awkward situation for us" or something like that

You had already given in to her desire to have the seat closest to the aisle - and this is how she is repaying you honoring her wishes?

I agree with others - I would only have your father walk down the aisle and cut off any issues with your mom's pettiness.

I've known you through WW for a while and your mother has continually undermined you and now sabotaging you. I agree with others, you should inform her that only you and your father will walk. She can be seated with the other guests. If she threatens to quit [again], tell her you accept her decline and will remove her from the guestlist. Inform your security and/or coordinator. Her toxic antics are menacing. Make choices to protect yourself and your family and you will have no regrets.

Your mom has officially crossed the line. She had absolutely no business coming here, of all places, to go digging for your posts. From everything you've written about her in this post and in others, she's gone to great lengths to make this wedding all about HER, which also isn't her right or business. It sounds to me that your relationship with your cousins is the more salvageable - and frankly, the one more worth saving - than the one with your mom. I would reach out to the cousins immediately to apologize and explain. You'll probably find that they said things in anger, too. As for your mom, the next time she threatens not to come to your wedding, tell her, "Fine, then don't." Somehow I have the feeling that things will be better in the long run for all if she's not there. If, however, she's able to come to her senses and act like an adult over the next month, then for your sake, I hope she's there.

I have every right not to invite her. She sounds like nothing but drama so she is the victim and center of attention. if you do have a bouncer. A designated friend or bridemaid/grooms one to head off any drama headed your way and willing to boot her but out. I did it for my cousins's wedding. Nothing like a whisper in an ear and saying you have no trouble dragging them out by their feet and duck taping them up in the back of your car to get grown as adults to behave.

also dont let her any were near your dress and have a glass of red wine ready just in case she shows up in white