I'm (groom) dealing with a bit of drama in my family, and I'm curious what people think here.
My fiancé's family is reasonably well off, and her father was excited to pay for the wedding. My parents wanted everything to be equal, so pushed to be able to pay for half. It wasn't something that was necessary, and we pushed back to avoid awkwardness with money, but they insisted, and said "this is a no strings attached gift. don't think that you need to involve us ... just tell us what to wear and where to be." So, her parents accepted.
Time came to tour the first venue. My fiancé wanted her mom to be there, and although she didn't love the idea of inviting her dad, he really pushed so she agreed to let him come. I asked her to invite my parents, as I thought that it was the right thing to do (though, I don't have strong feelings either way TBH). She didn't love the idea, because she didn't want this to be a committee of people making the decision, and in any event, my parents were pretty adamant that they didn't feel that they need to be included.
Whereas it wouldn't have been a big deal if it was just the two of us, my mom just found out that we were going with my fiancé's parents and is really hurt. Like, really hurt. So I tried to invite her, and now she's passive aggressively saying that "well you don't want us there, so we're not coming."
I feel absolutely awful, but my fiancé seems to be ok with where things came out. I guess I'm wondering if anyone has dealt with this situation, especially with the groom's mother having hurt feelings for not being invited to something.