Husband works night shift

View Quoted Comment Glad to know I am not.. some times I don’t like to bring things to him thinking that I am wrong to think a certain way

You are not overreacting! I would be disturbed if my FH did that. A marriage is about two people becoming one - parents not included in this union! Marriage is about putting your spouse above family, and if you feel he isn't prioritizing you I really encourage you to speak up. You deserve to feel like a priority and the most important person in his life!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! That’s how I feel. Great way of putting it.

View Quoted Comment Very sorry to hear that this is the current state of your marriage, especially after only 6 months. Hope things turn around for the better.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! Hopefully soon

Definitely not an overreaction. Weirdness of the situation aside, even more concerning is how dismissive he seems if your feelings. That would NOT sit well with me. The bottom line is it frankly doesn’t matter if his sleeping arrangement is weird or normal/nothing wrong with it— normalcy is irrelevant. There IS something wrong with it even if the only thing at all that’s wrong is that you are bothered by it. You both have to be on board with the arrangement— that’s marriage. If you both were, then cool — may not be for me but your life is your life. But that’s not the case here, because you’re not comfortable with it. To his “I see nothing wrong with it” your answer is “the thing that is wrong is I am uncomfortable” ...if that doesn’t mean anything to him, that’s a real issue .

Lying is never okay... period!

If there is a reason he wants to stay there, he should tell you. Even if you disagree with his reasoning, let him fully explain it to you. Then instead of saying why you disagree, explain to your husband how staying at his parents makes you feel. Then see if you can come up with a compromise.

You are not overreacting. I think it’s more proper for him to come home to both of your house regardless if you are home or not. I think you should tell him how you feel inside.

I definitely don’t think you’re overreacting, that’s very strange in my opinion. How old is he ? (You don’t have to answer that, that’s just what came to my head when reading that). He should be sleeping at home, with his wife .. when my husband and I argue I always say I’m going to stay with my patents, but I never have because. I live here, with him, and leaving would make things worse. I understand if he slept on the a COUCH after an argument, but sleeping at his parents, for no reason all the time? That is weird, definitely need to have a serious talk with him. I hope things get better for you!

View Quoted Comment Very true, thanks for your input, some times I feel like I shouldn’t feel this way but everyone is different and if it bothers me, it just does.

View Quoted Comment Yup, that’s what bothers me even more. And I confronted him about lying..

View Quoted Comment Thanks that’s what I think as well.

View Quoted Comment He’s almost 30, but some guys just seem like they never grow up or they pretend that they don’t know how to be on our shoes. Just to clarify, he sleeps during the day at his parent’s because he works midnight shifts.