i am engaged and the groom is flying family in and his paid$5,000

You have far greater problems than the wedding. I am sorry.

This needs to be discussed in detail with your FH. Financial counseling might be in order for you both to get on the same page. This will carry over into far more than the wedding.

Is the date in your profile correct? If your wedding is in less than 2 months most things should be almost paid off. If you don’t have money to pay the rest of what you owe vendors you might need to postpone or cancel. It sounds like y’all are on different pages on a lot of things and that’s worrisome.

Certainly all of the financial obligations should have been discussed long before now. It sounds like you might want to postpone your wedding until you’ve discussed how you will handle all of your finances.

View Quoted Comment I agree. Why are you expected to pay for everything ? Also, why is he covering the cost for his family to fly out and was that discussed during the planning process?

I’m sorry you’re going though this, but I think the cost of flying out HIS family should not be included in the budgeting for the wedding. Therefore he should still pay for half of his part for the wedding.

Uh if you're married your finances are both yours... There is no you pay for everything. You're both paying for the wedding and he needs to get his head out of his rear.

I agree if you don’t have anything booked or money for it getting married in 2 months is impossible.
2nd I think you and your fiancé have sine stuff to work on before you get married.

Sounds like he screwed up and wants you to fix it. Sorry this is a bad situation. Wedding budget needs to be discussed before any money is spent.

Did you all do premarital counseling, if not then you should asap.

A year into my marriage -- finances are the thing you should be most open about. If you guys cannot talk about the finances for the wedding, how can you talk about everything else you will run into?