Hi, first time poster. I’m getting married in December and I decided that I am not walking down the aisle with my dad. He’s an addict and did some horrible things to me and my family when I was a kid before my parents were divorced. I know addiction is a disease so I tried to live with him my last year of college to try to rebuild our relationship only to find even more distance, gaslighting, and to top it off, a rat and cockroach infested home. Now, I really don’t want any relationship with him anymore.
I could go on about all the things I’ve gone through but the bottom line is, I don’t want him walking me down. Now that I have told him, it has been a whole drama. He believes that he deserves to walk me down and he is entitled to that because he pays for my phone bill. Now, he is saying he doesn’t want to come to my wedding at all. My mom and sister have called me multiple times to ask me if I would change my mind, how humiliating this would be for him, and that I’m being unnecessarily cruel. This has been a really hard decision for me to make but it is the one that I feel comfortable with. It feels like the only people who are supporting my decision is my FH and my friends. I had no idea that a 30 second walk could cause me so much anxiety. I just want to enjoy planning my wedding.
This situation alone has made me want to elope but my FH wants a big wedding so I have to deal with this.
TDLR: I am not having my dad walk me down the aisle and my family is mad at me about it and thinks I should change my mind.
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