i do not want to have a bridal party - am i wrong?

You are allowed to do whatever YOU would like!

As far as financially - I did decide I wanted a small bridal party (3) - but I really wanted no extra expenses for them to attend so I paid for the dresses and will cover hair/ make-up / jewelry - but I am forgoing buying the giftbags and matching pjs and whatnot. So if your budget allows to cover costs for one or two member (AND ONLY IF YOU WANT IT!!!!) that is an option as well. Plus - you really shouldn't ask anyone to be in your bridal party until closer to the wedding - so you have time to decide!

Congrats - Hawaii sounds lovely!

Nope I don’t have one and the best decision I ever made. I did not want the headache of deciding who out of all my friends would stand up for me without passing one or more off. There so much to worry about with the wedding and the coordination of that at my age is too much for me.

Do whatever you want! We’re only having 2 on each side (all very laid back people). But I think no party is totally fine!

Nope. No wedding party is fine. We had a small DW and skipped it too. Less drama, stress & cost for us (and the wedding party).

Bridal parties are overrated. There is less stress and complications for you. Do want you want and don’t be influenced by your mom. It’s not her wedding after all.

You can do whatever you want! Without a bridal party, it might allow you to more organically include your close friends and family in the getting ready/the day. Sometimes I regret asking anyone to be in mine (even the small group of 4 I asked) because I wish I was more free to have any friend around and not feel like I'm saying "these ones are my favorites". (Because really it's not even true, it was more about friendship length.) BUT, I do have to say an official bridal party can be super helpful right before the ceremony to help you and get a fun excited vibe going. Meanwhile, regular guests will be more focused on arriving and enjoying their evening and try very hard NOT to see you. Not that anyone needs to be "forced" to help you, but I reallyyyy enjoyed fussing over my SIL and my friend before that. There's something really fun about being behind the scenes during that time. 😊

If she tells you should have a WP again , just ask her something along the lines of: "Will the state of Hawaii nullify our mariage over this? We'll ll only have one if it's a legal requirement in HI" ...

When I told my parents and extended family that we weren’t having a bridal party they looked at us like we had 5 heads and were confused and didn’t agree w our decision. It was tough for me because I am a people pleaser. But I’m glad I stuck with what I wanted. It was the best thing not having a bridal party. I still had my best friends to chat with every so often. I still had my sisters to help me with certain things. Etc.

Thanks for all of your comments ladies! Sometimes it seems my mom can be a bridezilla and it’s not even her day LOL


Just wanted to be sure I’m not the only one who has opted for no party. I just feel like I would be asking people out if obligation rather than because I really want to. This whole day is about be being able to spend the rest of my life with the man I love and literally nothing else. The wedding isn’t even #1 on my list just me and my guy is my biggest concern.

No bridal party here! Seems to be much more common now so I don’t think it’s weird at all!

We did not have any, because some of my close friends couldn't come from my home country and it felt weird to have a party without them. Didn't have it, just had a small photo session with friends before the reception and people were helping us a lot the day of. It was wonderful and no one had to spend too much money on buying a dress they wear once.

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I used to work for a wedding planner, and momzillas are TOTALLY a thing (frankly, more so than bridezillas)! As long as you're meeting whatever legal requirements there are to get married (and religious requirements, if that's your thing), then anything else is optional and up to you.

There's are lots of people here that have opted for no bridal party, you're not alone! There's no need to have them. Do what you like!

Our bridal party are his two kids. Daughter (16) will be my MOH and his son (13) will be BM. We didn’t want the extra stress or financial obligations for anyone else, both on us and them. We’ll still invite people we would have had in our party to hang out with us as we’re getting ready.