I don't get why people don't want the bouquet/garter toss...

I didn't do the tosses not replace them with anything and no one missed them at all.

It may leave a bad taste for some people to be labeled as "single", because with the bouquet toss tradition, the "single" label is then equated with something bad, since these single people apparently need to be herded together to fight for the right to catch a husband via catching the bouquet.

I personally did the bouquet toss, but I totally get why people would object.

There will only be one single lady at my wedding and the only single guys will be my 16 year old nephew and my MOH's 11 year old son. So not bouquet toss and no garter toss. I always find the whole garter thing to be a bit raunchy at times. More time to mingle and dance.

I am not a big fan of the shoe game personally. I'd rather do the bouquet/garter toss and that's what we're going to do. Neither one of us wants to answer a bunch of questions in front of people. Something to get the crowd involved is to have the DJ (if you're having one) do something like a name that tune game or a scavenger hunt. The DJ at my cousin's wedding did this a few years ago and it was fun. It got more people involved.

I'm not doing either. I don't like either one. Plus there are 2 brides. There is not going to be that many "traditional" things about our wedding. Just dinner, dancing and drinking! No guessing games, scavenger hunts, or trivia games either!

It's boring as hell to anyone who isn't single, and therefore not involved.

We are not doing a garter toss, not something that interests me. I am still deciding on bouqet toss though. No shoe game.

FUnny story, FH and I were at a friends wedding last year and I caught the boquet and my FH caught the garter. I guess we were ment to be.

There is only one single lady and no single men coming to our wedding. We aren't having a BP and a lot of our guests are our parents and aunts and uncles... Just not the right crowd for that stuff.

It's boring to the nonsingle people, and insulting to the single ones. (You're assuming the single ones are so desperate to get married that they will enter and attempt to win a competition to accomplish it.) We had two brides, two bouquets, and two garters, and nothing got tossed.

I also have some feelings about the label associated with NEEDING to catch a bouquet in order to be rid of 'single-ness'...

Im not doing the garter toss for one main reason--Im hoping that my mermaid dress fits so snugly that it would be a challenge for him to get it anyway Also--Its really not my thing to have ppl watch those kind of moments with me and FH...

Just my opinions though

I originally assumed we would do those things, but as i started planning, the more i realized it just doesn't fit into our wedding. FH's groomsmen are all married, my girls are all married... Our head count is less than 50 so we have more of a cocktail party going on rather than the traditional wedding stuff. My crowd is also a little older as FH and i have a significant age gap- so I just don't find it appropriate for ours.

We have a very low amount of single people coming to the wedding. I think I'm going to use an idea from someone else on here because I loved the bouquet toss when I was a teen so I want to do one. Wrap some scratch-off tickets around the bouquet stem before tossing and have ALL females participate in the toss.

We are not doing the bouquet/garter toss nor are we playing the shoe game. I never liked nor participated in the bouquet toss. Watching women fight over a bouquet just seemed ridiculous to me. As far as the shoe game, no matter how small, we are very private and don't discuss the intimate details of our relationship.

I am doing the toss, but we aren't doing the garter because there will only be one single guy there. I hate the shoe game too! It's too long. I would rather just dance more

I hate the bouquet/garter toss. We are not playing the shoe game either ( not a fan). There is one dance that will be the anniversary dance and the "toss" bouquet will go to the longest married couple. We only have 3 single ladies at our wedding, so the bouquet toss would make no sense, IMHO.

I say if you love something and want it, do it.

Whenever I have been involved in a bouquet toss, I stand in the back awkwardly until it's over. I have never enjoyed it. Also, call me crazy, but the idea of FH going up my skirt in front of 130 people (especially when his grandparents will be there) does not thrill me. I feel like everyone will be thinking about the wedding night. And then throwing my "underwear" to another random guy? Weird. Just not my thing :-)

At first we were thinking of not doing either are there will be only one single person and 2 single men at our wedding so we changed the rules a little bit. We are still going to do the garter and bouquet toss but we are calling all the ladies and all the gentlemen to the floor and whoever catches it will get a little prize like a gift card or a bottle of wine. That way we can still incorporate them into our reception without singling anybody out.

I'm not doing it because we only have a handful of single people. The thought of my 35 year old FBIL putting the garter on my 18 year old cousin grosses me out. So, we're not doing it.

I have no idea what a shoe game is and we didn't do a bouquet toss or garter. I think the garter thing is a bit déclassé. Personally, I don't think weddings need 'games'. A great band and an open bar seemed to do the trick at ours.

We did the bouquet and garter toss, but no one put anything on anyone. We just had whoever caught both dance with each other.