I don't get why people don't want the bouquet/garter toss...

All of what Chantel said. My mermaid dress isn't coming up that high unless I have to pee, or I take it off at the end of the night. No one needs to see that.

Each couple can pick and choose their traditions to have, if any, there's no reason to look down at other couples not doing the same tradition you are.

@Julie, bottom line is, do whatever makes you happy If you want to do the bouquet/garter toss, go for it girl! (Sounds like you already plan on it anyway). There are many people out there that truly enjoy that part of a wedding.

I agree that no one SHOULD feel "ashamed" of being single. However, it is very common that they do, especially as they get older. And then when those people are put in a situation where they are called up in front of a large group of people it may become even more awkward for them. That being said, I think it is pretty unlikely that any of us brides are getting married because we were at one point "ashamed" to be single. I think that is a bold statement to make. I would like to think it is because they fell in love with their FH just as I did

I was never a fan of the bouquet toss as a single girl at weddings, so we've decided instead to present the bouquet to the couple in attendance that has been married the longest. I think FH's grandparents will really appreciate that! but to each her own!

We aren't going to be doing it because #1: there wont be that many single men OR women at the wedding and I don't want to make them feel self conscious about it. #2; FH is really shy and I don't want him to get embarrassed about taking off my garter in front of 220 people. #3; Our families don't need to see that sh!t.

But we will most likely replace it with an anniversary dance...his grandparents hit 65 years 4 days after our wedding and he wants to do something sweet

Not doing it. We'd rather spend the evening just dancing and having fun with our guests. They're a bunch of dancers and the only "single" lady attending is engaged to be married.

Funny thing is, my aunt and uncle are the couple that has been married the longest. My aunt is coming from TX but I seriously doubt my uncle will come! He does not like me because something I said 5 years ago got turned into something WAY more! Seriously though, he is inappropriate with women, and I called him out on it he got so butt-hurt and won't even speak to me anymore!

We're skipping bouquet and garter as well, ive always found them ridiculous and annoying so ive cut them from my wedding. we're also not doing any hunts, trivia or any of that. i just dont see the point. a good dj, good food, booze and friends is all we've ever needed anyways, so it'll be just like all of our other parties just me in a dress this time

We are not doing any games, trivia etc. however, i may do the bouquet toss and garter toss minus the "garter cacher putting the garter on the bouquet catcher" Lol, that must be a regional thing because I've never seen it at any wedding i've attended. We may change our minds, but we have time! i think its to each their own and you have to look at what would be ok for you and your audience.

I didn't want to do it because of the history behind the traditions....it's really quite sick when you think about it.

In the days of arranged marriages the union was not valid until it was consumated (aka sex). So to prove a couple had sealed the union, right after the ceremony some of the family members would enter the bedchamber with the couple and watch them to confirm it had indeed been done. This evolved into the groom throwing the garter out of the door to "prove" that he was disrobing his new wife.

It was also considered good luck to get a piece of the brides gown so guests would attempt to grab and tear off a piece as the bride left the church. The most prized possession was the bouquet so brides would toss them in order to get away unscathed.

I'm with you! I couldn't imagine giving that part up. I only would if I didn't have enough single people to toss to other than that... No way!!!