I don't know these people!

QueenB my point is that I didn't mind that my parents wanted to invite their friends...

But to each their own.

Lol! My dad said that he just wants ONE TABLE for his golf buddies and few other of his old cronies....WTF?!?!? A whole table?? We are already tight on space and he thinks I can give up a whole table for some old geezers I've never met (dad is also on a fixed income so we declined his offer for any money towards the wedding)

My parents were good about this for the most part..my mom got mad because I messed up and didn't have the address for one couple they wanted to invite, but they knew they were invited anyway, it was just a mix-up where I forgot to add the address to my spreadsheet. My in-laws wanted to invite FIL's entire office, so that was a conversation we had to have because they had literally 50 people.. I think we trimmed it to about 10-15 of their friends and VERY extended family that DH and I weren't planning to invite. The biggest issue was honestly me inviting people my mom objects to (half-sister from my dad's first marriage who she hates and one of my cousins who doesn't speak to another family member).

My mom wants to invite a bunch of third cousins I've never met because she was invited to their children's weddings. We have a cap of 100 at our venue. My FH's family is three times the size of mine, so he's already making much stricter cuts, like not inviting all his aunts and uncles.

My in laws did this but honestly I didn't care. They were paying for a lot of it so I kept thinking eh I don't know them and I hope they have fun...

@Maltese you're hilarious! Lmao

I guess I should let my parents invite their mailman, since they probably speak about me to him as well. Where does it end?? Golf buddies, drinking buddies, shampoo lady??

Maybe it's just me, but I would find it weird to see a bunch of people at my wedding who have had nothing to do with my life. Especially the ceremony part. Why would sit and watch someone get married you have no connection to? And I want to look out at the crowd and know that these people really and truly care about us and KNOW us. I don't want to see a bunch of strangers looking back at me. Idk maybe I'm weird like that.

Both of our parents were asked who they wanted to invite, and we would have invited whoever they said. I agree with Northern NM, this day is just as much theirs as it is ours.

Edit to add: Where does it end? I really doubt your parents would want to invite the mailman (I know you meant this sarcastically). I guess it ends when your parents don't ask for anyone else. Usually they understand the cost and only ask for a few people who they would really like to be there to celebrate with.

I've always been the one to say it's the two families day, not OUR day. But still, there has to be some limitations. Especially when we're footing the bill. They have 4 of their close couple friends coming. Those people I know and love. Inviting people just to invite them, no. Not gonna happen. I think they are just overly excited is all. But this is a wedding. I wouldn't mind my birthday party or family reunion.

Tell them they can come to the wedding but not the reception! thats what i did, my mom had all these people she wanted to come so i told her they could come to the wedding but not the recpetion. Never met them lol but you dont pay for people to be at a wedding you pay for them to be at the reception

Put your foot down and tell them with you paying for the wedding they aren't allotted guests that aren't close to the family!

Tell them it's family and friends and not therapists they see once or twice a month.. lol

Actually @Candyce, the ceremony is the most important part for us. Everyone one attending have been there for us. People who encouraged us when we were going through some rough patches. I just can't with random people. Doesn't mean I don't love my parents as much or I'm making ot about just fh and I. Far from it.

Are you spending the most money at the wedding or ceremony? what i meant was the really you dont pay for people to be at the wedding ceremony but really you pay for them to be at the reception where they eat, drink and all that, usually at the ceremony the people arent who you paying for. i'm guessing your ceremony is costing you a lot?

Candyce, not everything is about money haha. I am excited to see my family at my ceremony and want to share our marriage with those close to us. QueenB feels the same way - she doesn't want some randoms looking out at her when she's exchanging rings lol.

OMG!! I have been arguing with my parents about this already and I still have tons of time to go!! My parents keep telling me that it wont matter to me who is or isn't there because I wont remember anyways and its more about who they want to have around. UMMM FALSE! I find it really frustrating. But for me at least it isn't my moms nail lady it is more like my mom's 2nd cousin who I have never met before. Or the lady who babysat me when I was a baby, who we haven't talked to in ten years.

@Candyce im spending alot on everything lol. Amd August Bride is right. No randoms!

Maybe I might reconsider inviting them to the reception if I get some no's. But in a rare case EVERYONE RSVP yes, I'm not inviting extra guests.

My MIL knows way too many people, so naturally her guest list was longer than anyone else's. She was more concerned about offending someone than she was about the cost. If I haven't met you before/can't pick you out of a line up, then I really didn't want you at my wedding.. LOL.

OMG my mom and my FH's dad! They keep mentioning people that I don't know and honestly don't care for.

And I have a year and a half to go so I can only imagine who else will pop up on their list!

You are absolutely right though lol I have been saying the same thing to my fiance about not everythng is about money esp with events like weddings. I understand what u mean tho. Personally majority of the money is going to the reception. i dont mind anyone coming to see us show our love for one another the whole world could watch, its romantic and positive so i just looked at it differently. we let ppl know already we dont mind who actually comes to the wedding but we mind the reception. our families are not balling like how we would like to so it is a bit about cost to us but some things are pretty costly but thats mainly at the reception

@RusticBride lol exactly! And I didn't even touch on my fmil. She's one of those high society, come from money women who knows everyone. I bet she'd invite the mayor, all her country club friends, her yoga teacher.