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i don't think fiancé wants to get married, Help?

Jenna, on December 31, 2017 at 12:51 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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I'm about to get personally mainly because I really don't have many friend to talk to about this but I have been engaged to my fiancé for over 4 years now together in total for over 9 years. We have 2 kids; 3 year old boy and 8 month old girl. Since we have been engaged he has never brought up to me in a serious conversation about getting married. I'm always the one bringing it up and even when I do ask him he's just like "we will get married" and that's basically the end of the conversation. & obviously there has to be some kind of plan you can't just say we will and not even bring it up its not something you just get up and do in the moment(unless it was a Vegas wedding lol) I try to watch say yes to the dress or 4 wedding around him to see if he will bring it up and nothing!!! I tell him I don't even want to wear my ring or tell people I'm engaged because I don't feel like I'm engaged at all and he gets mad. I'm just feeling so hopeless. Nothing is working.. Obviously we have a great relationship otherwise I just don't know why he even proposed to me just to let me down I feel like I got ripped off of this special moment in life so many girls dream about😩 if anyone has any suggestions for me it can relate on any level please feel free😃

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Latest activity by Dee, on January 9, 2018 at 7:04 AM

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christina · on January 1, 2018 at 9:17 PM
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I think something happens around holiday week and engaged couples flip and start rethinking alot of things.
( This has been the worst most stresssful month evverrr for so many engaged ppl sadly ...including me) I think its the finances and gits that take a toll. Take some time after the holidays to revisit. You guys have alot of important things together - It may be worth celebrating even in a small way nothing huge.
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Diane · on January 6, 2018 at 9:51 AM
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I feel ya girl. We've been together for 14 years, engaged for 11, yes 11 years (we were just out of high school when he proposed), have a 6 year old and are just now planning a wedding. Everything I try to show him or ask him about, he doesn't seem to care. I keep asking him if he wants to take a tour of our ceremony venue so I can schedule it, and he doesn't care. I almost feel like I'm a bother with this stuff, so I'm planning it with his mom. Some guys are just like that, I guess. I know my fiance wants to be married, as I'm sure yours does too. Planning just might not be their gig lol. Hang in there!
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Melinda · on January 6, 2018 at 10:46 PM
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I feel ya girl I've know my fiance for a while now its just you say when I talk about it he kinda don't seem to interested and when I told him his daughters was going to be in the wedding I thought war war 4was coming out but hit me up on Facebook we can be friends and talk
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ScareBear · on January 7, 2018 at 4:58 AM
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I've been with my FH a bit over 3 yrs, engaged a few months. He doesn't bring up anything wedding related and if I ask a open ended question my answer is usually "I don't know" or "we have time to think about this later". If I give him a couple options and tell me his opinion I get better answers. He's made 3 decisions on his own (4 if you count picking me to be his wife lol): the date, having a head table, and our first dance song.
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O · on January 7, 2018 at 9:56 PM
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If I left the planning up to my husband then there wouldn't have been a wedding. I did all the research, and scheduled meetings in the beginning, and gave him options to choose from. I also set up couples counseling and that helped us out, too. Certain details didn't matter at all to my husband, all he cared about was the food, cake, cheesecake and DJ and marrying me.
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