i don’t think i want to get married anymore

Have you considered couples counseling? That's unfortunate that you feel that way, especially being so close to the date. Or do you think me the you're just stressed out from wedding planning?

You're very close to your wedding date. Are you sure this is what you want?

The brother/suit issue would stress me out too!!! It sounds like you need to sit down and have a talk with your fiancé about this. Excuses or not, that’s unacceptable and maybe the solution is kicking the brother out of the wedding party. (Full disclosure, I’m in a similar situation with the future brother in law, and we’re two weeks out—how hard is it to find 15 minutes to get measured for a suit?!?!!!!).


If the only thing that’s making you not want to get married is this suit issue, it’s probably more of a take a breath, reset, and remember why you got engaged/started dating your fiancé kind of gig.
But if the suit thing is just a tip of the iceberg issue, I agree that you need to get into counseling to discuss whether you want to go through with the wedding. It’s a big decision and it’s easier to end an engagement than a marriage.

If you have any doubts about marrying him, don’t do it. Postpone or cancel and work with a therapist to see if the relationship is salvageable.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for all the reply’s we have been together for 5 years. I didn’t want to feel like he wasted all me years I do love him, but I know love is not good enough. It’s just he loves taking everyone’s side not looking at mine . We do have our ups and down but us both being libras we been trying to work through them.For me it seems like he don’t understand the true meaning of marriage. When I ask he says to love me loyalty and to build. I can see him putting other before me and I dj if I can deal with that I can’t lol. So he might say he hasn’t did any thing to you but if he telling me things he do to him of course that going to hurt me also because I love him. But he don’t get it. Counseling would help if we both are opened about our feelings.Yes am very stressed with the wedding the wedding party We have is so not interested in doing NOTHING A SAD CASE LOL

Do NOT marry someone just because you've been together a long time. Postpone and get counseling. You want to go into marriage at your strongest.

Is it because he doesnt want to make decisions about the wedding? Or in general? Are these all issues that existed prior?

You ARE able to get suits in a very quick time frame. DH didn't even decide that he wanted matching tuxes for him and his groomsmen until TWO WEEKS before the wedding, and we were able to get them still through Men's Warehouse.

The brother and the suit issue would be completely irrelevant (you don't need him to get married after all) IF you weren't also expressing doubts about your future spouse's behavior and character. Set aside all of the "noise" (i.e., other people, wedding plans, money spent so far) and really consider if you want to marry THIS person. If you have any doubts, then you must postpone the wedding until you know for sure. Divorce is way more expensive and painful than a cancelled wedding.