I don't think it get worse than this.

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Amy, you are the luckiest bride ever. I'm jealous.

I wouldn't worry about the place cards. If you decide to let them come I would just put Guest 1 of the .....family, Guest 2, of the ......family, etc......Maybe then they will see that what they did was WAY out of line. And of course that's only if you decide to let them come.

Do you even know who these people are? I can kind of understand the cousin one (although if their names weren't on the envelope, they really shouldn't be doing that either), but that's a lot of people to add on the 7 person one.

Annie- Lol. I really should do that.

I see that one card says 7, 7?!?!?!?!?! Call them up and say no!

The first one, no I don't know who she means by and family? I know she has 2 kids. They are grown and I don't talk to them. I wouldn't even recognize them. The second I know the names listed as they are my cousins who I rarely see (like once every 5 years) but I have no idea who the 'and guests' are?.

Laura- That's what I said when I opened it! My MOH was here with me hanging out and I was like Geeez 7 people!!! I invited 3!! Ughhhh. Yeah, I think even if I do get enough declines I still wouldn't allow all 7. It's wayyyy to much.

No. You call them TOMORROW and tell them that you cannot accommodate these extra people, even if you theoretically can.

It's not up to other people to make your guest list. It's up to you, and you get the final say.

That's just crap. I can't believe how rude/clueless/ballsy people can be!

Celia- Thanks for that advice! I think I will do so. I was trying to be nice and figure something out, but you are right. It is crap! And if they choose not to come to the wedding oh well! At this point I really dont care!

Ok, I have good one for you, friends did that to us. We invited 2 people, their RSV came back and said the 2 people's names we invited and FAMILY. WHAT??????

I waited until after my rsvp date passed gave it to the first of this month, and then emailed both individuals to see if they coudl possibly accomodate me with a number. GUESS WHAT???? No one can friggin answer me. I'm about to be rude and just say and family can't be accomodated.

Wow that sucks! thankfully this has not happened to me...yet.

I dont miss this at all. ugh

@tammy- wow they didnt even give a number! Thats annoying!

@Erica- You are lucky!

@bee- I can't wait till I can look back at all this!

This is why it is a really good idea to put 2 (or whatever number you have) seats have been reserved in your honor. That way people know there is no adding 7 extra people to the RSVP.

I would call them and tell them you can't accommodate those who weren't on the invite. I am lucky that I also didn't have this happen to me, but I did include the "X seats have been reserved in your honour" line. I did have one person call and ask if she could bring a plus one (I hadn't given her one) though, but at least I got a call asking.

@Briggitte and Michelle- I was just kicking myself in the a$$ for not doing that. I gave some of my guest to much credit.

I was convienced I was going to make those calls right away, but now I'm thinking maybe I should see if I have room to B-list the added ones (except the people that are listed as 'guests' because I clearly have no clue who they are). At the same time I really don't want some distant cousins boyfriend/girlfirend there. I only want it to people I know and see more than once a year. So, I will B-list the distant family, but there is no way im allowing their boyfriends or girlfriends. Period.

I wouldnt even try to Accommodate them, you have your list and thats is. Even if some other people decline you will save money from their seats

Sry to hear you have to deal with that. I fortunately have also not had this happen. I did have my MOH ask if her 2 sisters and mom and their spouses can come and I said that's ok since I've known them all since middle school and am having way less ppl respond than I originally thought.

I'd say wait it out if these people are local but not too long. If they are OOT guests def make a decision right away so they dont make unnecessary travel arrangements.

Good luck.

You have described my worst nightmare. I didn't want to go the route of doing the two seats have been saved thing, but it sounds like this is the only way to get people to realize they can't bring everyone and their mother. When i got married the first time I was just a kid... with no money, paying for everything myself. Two weeks before the wedding one of my coworkers asked if she could bring her two cousins and their spouses to my wedding. They all wanted to go out and party that night afterwards. I didn't have a spine then, so I told her yes. If that happened now, I'd probably loose it on them. Or say, "Sure, but if you want them to come you will need to pay me $480 to cover the costs of the four extra mouths I have to feed" People... so tacky.