I don't think it get worse than this.

Thanks ladies )

@M2H- You are lucky she asked you before! Glad it worked out for you That is true these people are all about 2 hours away. So, I need to do what I need to do right away.

@Romance- that is a REALLY good way of looking at it. It will save me about $900! WOWZERS! I really didn't do the math on it until right now. I am not spending that money on them. That can be put towards so many other things!

@Kelly- Yes, I really think you should write in how many seats you are reserving for each guests invited!! I should have done that.

Oh I hope I don't have this problem.

I really hope I don't have this issue!

Yikes!

I think I was heaven was looking out for me because when I was creating my invites I read a post that said to add how many people im actually inviting. I forget the exact wording now.

I luckily only had it happen once!

I'm leaning on the side of not trying to accommodate them. My reasoning being, if this happens again (extra people on the RSVP) it could create more drama when you can't accommodate those people but you could accommodate the RSVPs above.

Just a thought, might not happen though

I agree with the other ladies that would decline to accommodate the extra guests -- do you have a good MOH a friend helping you plan that can diffuse the drama? I'd explain that there is only one guest seat per invitee, and ask the name of their "plus one" so you can draw up the place card, but it's easier to be "just business" when you're not directly involved.

Is there some NY Times best seller that's telling people it's perfectly fine to consider a personalized wedding invitation to be the equivalent of a family pass to the circus? Wedding invitations do not imply a fun, family outing for adults and children alike, and I don't know when this outrageous behavior became popular. Each day, there are threads like this, and I seriously cannot get my head around it.

Celia's right -- deal with this ASAP. Do not cave.

I'm having trouble reading the card -- does it specify the number of seats set aside for the invitees (it shouldn't be necessary, but apparently, it is)? If so, double shame on them...

One of my cousins (who was actually on the RSVP) asked me via FB if I recieved their RSVP and she wants to ask me a question. I replied, but she didn't/hasn't asked what she wants to yet. Hmmm kind of curious to what it is. Actually, Im sure it's about all the extra guests they included! So, lets see what she asks when she finally does.

@Centerpiece- No, it doesn't specify the seats reserved for them. I should have though! I really didn't think I was going to get SO MANY people added. I prepped myself for maybe one or two on a couple of the invites. But 12, reallly?! Actually, to be correct it is a total of 8 that were in added between the two RSVPs. The 4 out of the 12 were invited. Ugghhhh.

I advise everyone getting ready to send out invites or working on your RSVPs to put a space saying- I have reserved ___ amount of seats in your honour. It will save a lot of headaches.

I printed return address labels with the names of who was invited to 1) hopefully get the point across even more than just the envelope being addressed and 2) avoid looking up who I'm missing if someone didnt put label/name on invite (name part has happened twice) and we had one of FH family add the 2 kids and another one of his extended family (get this!!) WRITE in the name of their daughter on the return envelope and RSVP 3!! Both FH and I were like wtf!! And thennnn the first instance, of two kids being added, the mother had the audacity to ask FH dad if one daughters boyfriend could come!!! Ugh!!

You'd be doing them-- AND any future hosts of theirs a favor-- by calling and sayng that really only the people on the invitation were invited. If you acommodate(sp?) then, they'll just keep doing this to other people. Think of it as a public service.

Felicia I was in disbelief when I saw this....put your foot down, and call them up and say sorry only those addressed on the envelope are invited. Absolutely not (IMO) allow them to attend. Don't accomodate their stupidity and ignorance...I am blunt yes lol.

I think I am lucky and avoided this by doing RSVPs on my wedding website. I set up everyone who is invited (including any guests), with their own RSVP check off. My mom mentioned to me that her friend from Calgary called her and asked if her daughter was invited, she then proceeded to RSVP on the website and found her answer that she wasn't

I am actually removing a guest seat from my 19 yr old cousin, her BF of 2 years at the time of the invitation I assumed would attend, but they broke up. So her guest is getting removed.

No no no no! what is wrong with people? honestly!

the response cards I am ordering from wedding paper divas have:

___ of ____ will attend

so I can write the number of seats into the second line. I thought that was an okay alternative to "X seats have been reserved in your honor.." Any thoughts? This is seriously an awful trend.