i don't want a registry

There's nothing wrong with not having a registry.

It's normal, though, to do many of the photos before the ceremony. If brides and grooms don't, photos after the ceremony will take a long time. Your guests will get bored waiting and it's really not good form to have guests sitting around for 2 hours or more waiting on photos to be finished.

View Quoted Comment The ceremony and reception is at the same place, I have it planned out that while we're taking pictures the guess will be getting their dinner and the dj will be spinning (our plates will be fixed and set aside)
I don't want a lot of photos done.

Not having a registry is normal/fine.

You will struggle to get pictures done during cocktail hour if you really don't take any before the ceremony. Why would you want to miss your own reception to take pictures? I would think it was super weird if a couple wasn't eating dinner with their guests.

You don't need a registry, or a shower, but you can also make a small one with some items you want or uogrades.

We've lived together for about two years, but we registered for things we thought we might really like- a sound bar for our TV, smart smoke detectors, a smart garage door converter, a fire pit table... We threw in some basic towels and new luggage and stuff as well... That way when people wanted to buy physical gifts they had the option.

View Quoted Comment Food is our main attraction, its a rustic wedding in Cajun country ,we party till the next day, there will be plenty of time with guess 😊

Not having a registry is perfectly fine. Where I'm from (Midwest IL/WI) we never see bridal portraits at weddings, so to me that's normal not to do them.

We've known each other for 20 years and have been living together for 6 years. We are not doing a registry, we are asking for cards (checks and cash) instead so we can take a nice honeymoon.

We are doing photos before, but separately. We won't see each other until the church. Then we just have a few together shots to do after the wedding, so our guests won't have to wait as long.

Take whatever photos whenever you want
Or don't want!!! But don't make your guests wait for you too long for photos after the ceremony. I'm not registering either, we are having people do a donation.

We are not doing a registry because we’ve been together for 5 years and lived together for 3 of them. We don’t need anything. Instead we are doing a “honeymoon fund” for people to give cash, checks, etc. some people frown upon this but 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes its normal I'm doing the same thing too.

We've been together almost 13 years and have lived together most of that and will have a registry. We don't really need or want gifts, but we know people will ask. And even if we told people no gifts needed, some people will buy something anyways. Our compromise is a small registry with some upgrades and a few things we've put off buying on it. That way we're more likely to get something useful from the ones that will insist on buying a gift. But a registry is absolutely not required. As for pictures, I would discuss the timing with your photographer. They'll be able to tell you better than us how long it will take for the photos you want.

Not wanting to have a registry is perfectly fine. Perhaps give the option of listing the information of a charity that has a cause close to you and your fiancé's heart and say something along the lines of "Our home is full of all material items that we could ever need. In lieu of a traditional registry, we ask that if you so desire, to please donate to such and such charity in honor of our union. Blah, Blah, Blah." I agree with you about not wanting to take photos before the ceremony. We are doing the same thing. A lot of people do a first look now a days and take their photos prior to the ceremony. To each their own, but I much prefer the traditional timeline where no one but the bridal party and immediate family see the bride prior to walking down the aisle. I went to a wedding this past December where the ceremony and reception were at the same location ( a beautiful art deco hotel ). When my fiancé and I arrived to check into the hotel, the bride, groom, and entire bridal party were taking photos in the lobby. I don't know, to me it just seemed odd and took away from that traditional anticipation one gets when waiting for the bride to walk down the aisle.

My fiance and I are doing a small registry for the bridal shower. We already live together so we will just add small upgrades. He wants to include something on our invitations that asks for money instead of gifts.

I only made one for my Shower.

We aren’t doing photos before the ceremony, but that’s because every single person invited will be in the photos — we only invited immediate family. We also aren’t going to do very many photos; we only have our photographer for 2 hours, including the ceremony.

Hi Rebecca! It's fine to not have a registry if it's not something you want; however, it is good to have one so guests can purchase have a better idea of what to purchase. It's also okay to not take bridal photos before the ceremony! For some, it's more a tradition, but you should just go with whatever you desire! Good luck!

Nothing is wrong with not having a registry! If you are going to make one think about things you've been meaning to get into like a hobby or a luxury item. There are so many subscriptions for wine (winc is my favorite) , beer, cheese etc. Or maybe you guys want to change your decor and consider adding art to your home. I visited a wedding registry site (mishkalo) that lets you choose art or have it commissioned if you don't want them around the venue before! I agree having them before could take the spot light away from you. Remember its your day!