i don’t want to open gifts at wedding shower and i already sent out invites

People will expect you to open gifts at your shower, so you're probably stuck. You said you sent invitations, are you hosting your own shower?

Well there's nothing that says that you have to open gifts at your shower. Although why the concern about opening them in front of people? I would say at least have some games and just make sure that you know sandwich gift so you can properly send them a thank-you note.

View Quoted Comment My bridesmaids/family is but I bought and sent my own invites

Ah, I see. Even if there are games and things, people are going to expect to see you open their gifts (particularly if you have some older guests) - I did it - it was a little weird (especially since my MIL threw it for me and I didn't know half the people there (even though they're family now . . .)) but it was okay in the end.

Honestly, the worst part was one of the cousins gave me an ugly jewelry holder plate (which wouldn't work for me anyway because cats) and I had to pretend to like it.

If you’re expecting people to attend an event that’s all about giving you gifts, the least you can do is open them.

I feel your pain- I don’t like opening gifts in front of people either. It’s just awkward. My FH’s family insists on doing this for Christmas - they go around the room and watch each person open their gift. I HATE it. This is one of the reasons I’ve decided to not have a shower. Unfortunately, I don’t think there is a polite way to get out of opening presents in front of your guests- this is pretty much the “main event” of a shower.

I think if you’re throwing a shower it’s kind of expected that gifts are opened there. Idk if you were planning this but you could have your fiancé come and open them with you. I am not a fan of opening gifts in front of large groups either so my FH will and I’ll just sit next to him and admire lol

Hey I feel the same and my cousin recently hosted one for her bff. it was catered and at a timed location she purposely "allowed the games to go overtime" (wedding family feud, who knows bride best, scavenger hunt, bride dos and don't , clothes pin, and 1 other.) between games, speeches, eating the 4 hours flew by there was no time for gifts lol.

Omg I feel the same. Everyone is telling me it's going to be rude if I don't open the gifts in front of people but that seems like my worst nightmare honestly.