i feel like such a bad person!

Unfortunately, I feel like this is most common than people realize. I was struggling with the thoughts of people not being interested or excited as well. The best piece of advice I received was that while people ARE happy and excited, they also have things going on in their own life. Doesn't mean they are happy/excited for you, just means they are preoccupied with themselves. Since you have a year left to plan, I would work on the plans with just you and your fiances. I understand he works out of state (mine works out of town as well), but establish some ideas and together make the decision. Our preparations quickly became us deciding and then informing others when they expressed interest. It's definitely hard, but unfortunately you will have to let go of the idea having your bridal team super involved and do everything YOU want to do. Congrats on your engagement! And your WW family is here for you if you need opinions, etc.

Oh beautiful girl! As with the rest of these ladies, CONGRATS!!! It's so exciting to be engaged! You've got all this planning for the next chapter in your life and building your future!! I am sorry to hear bout the rough time, but please vent away. As far as all the jealousy, it's natural. Believe me. A lot of my girl friends, like 6 total (that I have), 4 of them are married. Some of them had extravagant weddings and bridal parties and other's were smaller and more quaint. I had this vision of my wedding and when we finally began to plan, I had no idea the funding and all the stress that could go into a wedding! It's overwhelming! I've been doing ALL the planning on my own. my MOH works at the hospital over nights and attends school during the day, my sister (BM) lives in Florida, my mother is also in Florida; and I am over here in Colorado like heeeyyy!! So believe me, the stress is unreal.

I kinda already planned my bachlorette thing, I am gunna go back to Florida for 4 days and just spa it up. Try to break free from everything! Whether the girls are with me or not, that's what i WANT to do to. As far as the party/planning stuff, hunnie you've got a year! use it! Time flies so much quicker as the deadline gets closer. I know I am 220 days out, but we are also moving next month, holiday's in nov and dec, there is an engagement session in there somewhere, there you have the NEW YEAR! Then it's crunch time, final details, fittings, last deposits, etc etc. IT's a lot to handle on your own!

Family will be family and some of YOUR choices will not match theirs. Don't stress about it and hold your ground. I've posted before about my parents, (mom trying to control my wedding, and my dad giving me a hard time of walking down the aisle or the dance thing), everyone had a lot of advise for me here on wedding wire! It's almost like we have to get a group going, ya know like "book club" or something and just drink wine and vent everything out! But don't allow their disappointment to destroy yours, I know its difficult. And with the FH in and out of town, it can be overwhelming. We work 65+ hours a week and sometimes go days without seeing each other, last thing we want to talk about is planning. Just enjoy each other's company when you can. You'll get through this! You are not a bad person. You are beautiful and even though it's through WW, you've so much love and support right here!

Beautifully said, Vivian!

And congratulations, Genevieve! I am so happy and excited for you! Remember there are always people who love you and wish you well! You are a person of worth. Never forget that. We are all so happy for you!

Congrats on your engagement! I'm so sorry you're going through such an emotional roller coaster. Don't feel bad about your feelings. This is a BIG time in your life. I live away from all of my family and my FH's family doesn't really talk to us for other reasons. So i also am feeling pretty lonely in the planning process. I am also not having a bridal shower or engagement party. It can get stressful but just remember this is about you and your FH. This will be a perfect and beautiful day for you both. Those that want to be there will be there. Do NOT let them take away your happiness!

Congratulations on your engagement!! We are all very excited for you!! But one of the hardest things I had to come to terms with is that nobody will ever be as excited about your wedding as you are. It's never what we all think it's going to be when we first get engaged. And, I too had to postpone my wedding almost a year, so I feel your pain there as well. My mom always taught me to look on the bright side, so I'm seeing the postponement as more time to plan and save!! That means I get more of what I want, instead of having to settle for less because it's all I can afford.

I can also relate to the jealousy you're feeling. When my sister got married, she had a whole slew of girlfriends who were over the moon excited for her, and stepped up to plan pre-wedding events and parties, and help her plan her dream wedding. Well, I don't have the huge circle of friends she did, and haven't had the group excitement she did, no longer have our mom there to help plan, and I often feel jealous as a result. Not that I would ever take any of that away from my sister, but it does make me sad that I don't have the same thing. Sometimes it feels like my family used up all their excitement on her wedding, and now have nothing left for mine. I don't usually voice these feelings to anyone, because it makes me sound like a jerk. But they are real, and since you were brave enough to voice your feelings here, I feel like you should know that you aren't the only one who has those feelings.

Don't worry girl, you are not a bad person. You are human, just like the rest of us.