i forgot to send out rsvp cards or even a phone number, website, or email on my invites.

A friend of mine also did ot include a rsvp because her wedding was also small about 50 people. I think maybe 40 showed. What she did was she sent us a text message about 1 month out and asked if we were attending and again a week before to reconfirm.

If you want, just do evite or something similar. I think you can also send a link by email from any of the wedding website to allow people to rsvp.

For me, rsvping has helped me inform people your invite is only for you and a plus one, not at plus three. Also, I still have a little time to confirm my numbers.

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Do you think it's tacky to do an extra invite via Facebook. I'm not sure if that's a thing. I don't have all the peoples emails or phone numbers I sent the paper invites to. Facebook would be easier but i'm also not wanting to be tacky. I guess that's just a matter of opinion. Thanks for the advice!

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Thank you @Regina!

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I personal dont think its tacky since now a days everyone is on social media.

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That is what I was thinking. I guess it would be different if I didn't send them in a formal manner at all and relied on facebook.. but it's just for an RSVP back up.

If you have any older adults I will confirm on the phone with them. If you sent out 70 invites please have enough food for 70 people. You rather have too much food than not enough.

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Agree if you invited 70 people you need to be prepared to feed 70. What if they all show up? 10 people don't eat?

If it's a budget thing why invite 70 if you can only feed 60?

I would send an blast text or email to your invited and get those RSVP. I feel
its important to get the RSVP. Just my opinion. Good luck and hope all goes well on your special day! Congratulations!!

You're not overthinking. If anything you're under-thinking. You need to reach out to each person and get their RSVP and you need to make sure you have enough food for all. This isnt something you can just hope turns out okay, you need to be proactive.

Personally, I would start calling, texting, emailing or however you keep in touch with people and ask for their RSVP once the invites have been out for a week or 2. I think this is important since you only have food planned for 60 and might need to adjust that. It will also be clear exactly who is invited and attending (plus ones, kids) if you get the RSVP associated with each invite.

I would call or text. What if they decide to bring a plus one or invite another couple? Even if you do a FB event page, you won’t get actual #’s.

View Quoted Comment I ordered catering for 60 but I’m also buying and making extra stuff as well. We should have plenty if that many come.

I say text message or phone calls are better. Find help on the family and give them the task to call those family members or friends on their side. Same with fiancé’s family. You take care of your friends and fiancé of his friends. This shouldn’t be so hard since is a small list.

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You are making stuff yourself? I would suggest getting insurance.

I don’t think sending a facebook invite is appropiate or any other invite after you already send out a paper invitation. This would create confusion and it would make the event look like a casual hangout rather than the formality of the wedding. This also don’t give people the sense of how many people in the household are actually invited so you might end up with a lot of plus one or even more.

Probably just a few finger foods and buying some as well. Some of my family members will be bringing stuff too.

View Quoted Comment You are right! I’m not doing that.

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I'm a little surprised the venue/caterer doesn't need real, solid, final numbers.

Uhhh, this is a huge issue. I think you’re underestimating. Why would you invite 70 knowing you only had enough to feed 60?