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Just Said Yes October 2021

I guess I am not having a Bachelorette Party

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Jordan, on August 5, 2021 at 12:36 PM

So, I have been engaged for 11 months and our wedding is in October. The bridesmaids/maid of honor were asked to be in the wedding almost immediately as they were all in on the engagement. It’s a small wedding party with 4 bridesmaids/MOH.

We’re now 8 weeks out from the wedding and I find out my MOH still hasn’t planned my bachelorette party. I ensured she had the time and ability to plan the bachelorette party because others were offering to do it for me. I have given her the other bridesmaids phone numbers so she could reach out for ideas/help. All of my bridesmaids messaged me recently asking if I knew any details because my MOH never reached out to them. My 3 bridesmaids have small kids and full time jobs (plus other obligations), my MOH is a SAHM of 2 teenagers so I don’t want nor except them to plan anything.
Am I right to be upset and disappointed? What would you say/do? I told my fiancé about the situation and he mentioned that he would just book a friend and I a spa day and a hotel for the night, but it doesn’t make me feel better.

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Master October 2019
Meghan · on August 5, 2021 at 2:51 PM
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I agree with this. If she says that she has not planned anything, you can let her know that you will be letting the other girls know in case they want to plan something.
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Savvy October 2021
Sarah · on August 5, 2021 at 3:15 PM
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Something very similar happened to me. I was originally supposed to have my bachelorette party summer 2020, and my MOH was planning it. However, we decided to postpone to summer 2021 due to the pandemic (and I postponed my wedding & reception to 2021 anyway). Shortly after, my MOH got engaged and I think she honestly just forgot about my bach party since she was soo busy planning her wedding. Understandable! I also wasn’t sure if I even still wanted one since my husband and I eloped last year and I’m legally married now.

Fast forward to a month ago, another very close friend of mine asked if we were still doing the postponed bachelorette party ahead of the wedding and offered to help me plan it. So now I’m planning it with her! It definitely doesn’t have to be the MOH doing everything if she is too busy. I would just tell your other friends that you’d like them to help you plan it if they offered. Your MOH will probably be relieved - it sounds like she has other obligations and won’t have time.
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