"I Had a Baby To Make Him Happy And The Weight Gain Led To My Divorce"

I think he’s a pig and unless he can magically start giving birth himself I think he should shut up. Wouldn’t it be nice if women could pop out a kid and the next day they’re back to their old selves, but it doesn’t work that way. I think people forget that giving birth is a medical procedure with risks and lots of horrific things happening. Weight would be the last thing on my mind, I’d be wearing diapers for crying out loud.

FH and I have talked about weight before and agreed we would step in and try to help if one of us was deemed unhealthy by a doctor but it would depend on circumstances. Weight gain from a pregnancy, an incapacitating injury or medication side effect should be off the table.

Weight gain that is unhealthy and due to poor dietary habits and lifestyle choices is far different than baby weight from a pregnancy. FH and I agreed to keep each other's diet and lifestyle choices in check as we go along our journey, but neither would leave the other because they gained some weight. It would be if they became lazy slobs that don't care about life anymore, lol. You can carry around some extra lbs and still live your best life. If you're overweight and unhappy and doing nothing to fix it ... that's not the kind of qualities either of us want in our life partner.

Jordan Bateman never loved her. He was attracted to her for shallow reasons. My guess is he is a vapid human being who goes through life chasing the next shiny object and ticking off life check boxes. I'd wager he has zero genuine relationships. Narcissism maybe? Eh, whatever.

I love Christina - always have since I was a child. I feel bad for her but I’m glad she realized she deserved better. Such a shame. He will never be happy because love isn’t about just looks. SHALLOW.

View Quoted Comment Yup! Exactly !! How awful.

View Quoted Comment I can completely understand why you have such a strong opinion on this topic.
My husband and I have also discussed this topic and he thinks it's disgusting how Jordan tested Christina.

View Quoted Comment I agree that if your weight gain began to interfere with your life then it would be a point of discussion. And even then you should support your spouse instead of judging him/her.

I guess I never thought to discuss weight with my husband. In our relationship I’ve been everywhere from a skinny (albeit sick) college cheerleader to depressed, sedentary, and solidly in plus sizes.

IMO as long as your are communicating and working on your relationship I just don’t find weight to be a huge issue. If he said what Christina’s ex did I would boot him out the door. Go off and be shallow with someone else.

Also, who tf has a baby just to make someone happy. I had no idea she did that. Noooo, girl. You didn’t have to do that.

Wow that's awful. Weight and body image is a very sensitive topic. I used to go thru eating disorders and I'm a huge advocate for it today. I've grown to love myself now to where I've got the self respect for myself to know that I am me and take it or leave it because this is who I am. I'm fortunate that my husband loves me and thinks I'm beautiful regardless as I am because during our relationship I've most certainly gained weight and have a different shape now than I did before.

I’ve never read anything about this and I just googled it and all I can find are articles where she says they grew apart and became different people. So I’m not sure this is even accurate. But regardless my husband knows I have a history of an eating disorder and has always reassured me he will love me and think I’m the most beautiful person in the world no matter what my weight is.

View Quoted Comment I do believe bit was shallow of her ex husband but what he did is an unfortunate reality for many relationships.

He's the absolute worst! That's not something you can help immediately after. He's a pig and Christina did right by her child but I definitely would have done the same thing. Once happiness came into my life, I would have left too. Someone else willing to step up to the plate to help her raise her kid. That's a blessing.

#TeamChristina

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I think weight can play a factor in how your partner is or is not attracted to you and can, therefore, become a big issue if intimacy and sex are lessened.

Also, many women compromise to make their husbands happy and sometimes that compromise can come in the form of a child. While I agree that you should never compromise to that extent, I do understand why some women might do it.

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I do agree that this is a sensitive topic, I should have put a warning on this discussion post.

Both my husband and I have gained weight and loss weight throughout the course of our 7-year relationship but our communication has also been a priority and as a result, our intimacy has never diminished.

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I'm glad you took the time to research this topic, I found it on facebook and drew my inspiration from that. Whether the information is correct or not the premise remains the same. This topic is about compromises that are made in marriage and how weight gain could impact your marriage.

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I wonder what steps were made to mend the marriage before ending it but I can definitely understand why Christina wanted a divorce.

View Quoted Comment Right. Like did she even really try or did she just say no?? I know I've done what I could with my first marriage but I was apparently the only one that cared so I left. Luckily, we didn't have kids though