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i hated my makeup trial; what to do?

Oxford, on September 5, 2018 at 10:24 AM

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I’d love anyone’s feedback on this, especially if you’ve had a similar experience. I had a makeup trial last night and I didn’t like the results. Due to limited time left before my wedding–just three weeks–I've already booked the woman for the wedding day, as she had great reviews, a good price, and...

I’d love anyone’s feedback on this, especially if you’ve had a similar experience. I had a makeup trial last night and I didn’t like the results. Due to limited time left before my wedding–just three weeks–I've already booked the woman for the wedding day, as she had great reviews, a good price, and I assumed the trial would be enough to help me decide what I wanted with her.

In my daily life I don’t wear much makeup, so I’m really not used to intense makeup, and I often do not like the look of it. But I thought booking an artist would be one less thing to worry about on the day, and that it would be fun to look a bit more elegant than usual.

At the trial, the woman was generally very friendly. I showed her what I thought I wanted for makeup in photos, but when she did the eye makeup on me, it made my eyes look way smaller and a different shape. I told her as well that I don’t like false lashes, and she told me how she always thinks it’s a mistake when people don’t get them, and said, “Hopefully you can suffer through them at least for the photos, then take them off!” That just sort of rubbed me the wrong way. Also, I mentioned I don’t like foundation and I never, ever wear it, but she told me I absolutely need it for photos. I said I’d try it just to see what it looked like, but I thought it made my nose look flatter and my face look greasy. I just did not look like myself at all. I looked like a different person, and I was not happy with it. But the problem was, I didn’t exactly know how to tell her this. How do you say to a professional “I hate all of this work you’ve done?” And how do you question a makeup artist on something so seemingly fundamental as foundation? I know any makeup artists are probably rolling their eyes as they read this, thinking I’m so clueless. But I just do not like how it looks on me. It makes me incredibly self-conscious. And when I think about it, none of the men are wearing it, and I don’t have that much colour inconsistency on my face…. so why is it mandatory I slather my face with this weird goo?

The other thing is, are the pictures really the most important aspect of the event, or is the most important aspect feeling comfortable in my own skin while having face-to-face time with dear family and friends I haven’t seen in a while?

I’ve paid a retainer fee, so cancelling her services I will lose money. Also, I would like her to do my hair, as I was fine with the hairstyles she did at the trial. So I am just wondering…

Has anyone had a bad trial experience but then a good wedding day experience?

Should I book another trial? (That costs more $$, which makes me nervous as I am busting the bank on this damn wedding). And if I do that, does anyone have any tips on how to be confident enough to just tell her what I want and assert myself better (ie., “I really genuinely do not want foundation, even if you find that weird”)?

Has anyone done their own makeup for their wedding and been happy with it? Is it fine to just forgo the whole professional makeup thing? But THEN how do I tell her I just want the hair service and not the makeup? I really don’t want to offend her. I feel like crap offending people, haha. Aaah please help.

Thank you so much everyone!

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  • Happily Ever Mrs. H
    VIP October 2018
    Happily Ever Mrs. H ·
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    Firstly, you are gorgeous.

    Secondly, I realize that you hate how you look, but you should trust your professionals. You said you don't wear foundation, so you have that visual engrained in your mind as to what you look like without it and seeing yourself differently is a shock to you. I completely understand. However, this foundation looks absolutely beautiful on you... and VERY natural. Your makeup artist did a wonderful job on your skin; It matches your skin tone, doesn't completely mask your freckles, and absolutely does not look greasy. This may be a little hard to grasp, maybe not, but your understanding of 'greasy' is what people in the beauty industry call 'glowing'. It's a good thing! Especially for pictures. Perhaps your makeup artist came off the wrong way to you, or didn't fully explain the importance of it, but I would highly advise wearing foundation on your wedding day. Yes, maybe you have a great skin tone and texture, but you will end up looking flat and tired in your pictures. I didn't want to say 'lifeless,' but foundation helps one's skin radiate and cover up any problem areas, like discoloration and blemishes. Despite what you might think, the undertones in your skin might work towards your disadvantage when professionally photographed.

    Now, regarding your eyes looking smaller, there are several things she can do to fix this: fuller eyebrows and contoured eye shadow. From what I can tell, it looks like one shimmery neutral/champagne-y color over the top half of your lid, which is where you need the dimension and "illusion.' Basically, you need a slightly darker shade in the crease of your eyelid. The eyeliner she did works against this and needs to be more subtle and natural if you want such a natural eyelid.

    False eyelashes can feel weird if you're not used to them. If you are really against having them, suggest to her to build up your mascara, to get the most length possible, naturally.


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  • O
    Beginner September 2018
    Oxford ·
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    I was really interested in having eye makeup done, so I didn't have to take the time to do it myself. When I do wear makeup, it tends to be a bit of mousse cover up and I play up the eyes. Anywho, it's not necessarily that I wanted a small amount... Issue was just that I thought I wanted a more dramatic look, and when I saw it on me, I thought, "Oh yeesh, no, that's not what I want."


    I've had dramatic eye makeup before and liked it, but it was done differently. This look to me was more "cat-eye," and I didn't feel it suited me (though might have suited someone else quite nicely!)
    Anywho, I am just going to let her know this, and I hope we can figure it out! Thanks for your feedback Smiley smile

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  • Preslee
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    That totally makes sense! In my experience; if you let them know you're upset soon after they may re-do it! I had my makeup done for a different wedding and they fixed it!

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  • Happily Ever Mrs. H
    VIP October 2018
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    Just be upfront and honest with her and tell her what you didn't like about it. Yes, she should instinctively know what to do, but she also needs direction. A lot of the time, what you envisioned in your head, is different from their vision. Just shoot her an email detailing everything and try to work out another trail.

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  • O
    Beginner September 2018
    Oxford ·
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    Thank you for this super-helpful post (and your nice compliment!). I was wondering the same thing about putting shadow in the eye crease, whether that might help to open the eye. That's what I was trying to ask her to do, but I think I did not explain it properly.

    Anyway, you have given me a lot of good feedback I can give to the artist. Thanks!!!

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  • O
    Beginner September 2018
    Oxford ·
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    Yes, I think i will go this route. Thank you Smiley smile

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  • 2018 Bride
    Devoted September 2018
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    I think you should definitely talk to her and see if there are small changes you can make that will make you happy. Does she do airbrush makeup at all? I just had my trial last night and my MUA used air brush foundation on me and it looked/ felt so much lighter than regular foundation- and wasn't greasy at all. Also, my MUA was saying there are different types of fake eyelashes where there are either more lashes towards the center or towards the end. And that certain types of fake lashes change people's eye shape more than others. So maybe talk to your MUA and see if there are others you can use, or if she'll do the individual lashes instead of the strips. But I would stand your ground too- if you really don't like the eyelashes and aren't used to wearing much makeup, I definitely do not think they are necessary

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  • O
    Beginner September 2018
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    Thank you for your feedback! I will ask her about the individual lashes and airbrush makeup!
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  • Estera
    Devoted August 2018
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    I wouldn’t recommend doing your own makeup on the wedding day. You will have so many other things to worry about. I would just take the loss and book another trial with more simpler make up and stress the fact that you do not want foundation. You want to be comfortable day of and if foundation makes you feel the way you discribe it then set your foot down. You’re paying her to do your makeup not to force something on you that you’re unhappy with. As for the false lashes - even if they are kind of uncomfortable for you I’d suck it up and wear them at least for pictures. They really do make a difference. You don’t have to get full glam lashes, but something a little extra will look nice and it’ll definitely pull the look together. When I went to my trail I didn’t bring my false lashes. I hated the way the eye shadow looked bc I looked like a naked mole rat. Day of I had the lashes and it pulled the look beautifully and I got so many compliments on my eye makeup that I originally hated. Good luck!!
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  • Happily Ever Mrs. H
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    Awww, I’m glad! You’re very welcome. I was trying my best to explain from my perspective. (And I already wrote that before reading your other replies regarding doing your own).
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  • O
    Beginner September 2018
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    Thanks for your feedback. I am leaning toward having the lashes for the photos now, after much persuasion Smiley smile

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