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August 2023

i hated my wedding

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Fairybride, on August 13, 2023 at 7:42 AM

I got married to the love of my life a week ago and hated the whole day. It's like everything I did not have direct control of went horribly wrong.

And if one more person says "all that matters is you married the love of your life" I will scream in their face.
My bridesmaid decided to pay super loud music during the processional so I couldn't hear my sister sing. The music threw off the drummer, so that was terrible.
Nobody set up the camera for the selfie station. My cake was lime green, stored in my room without my knowledge, and dyed my dress green for my first dance.
I put together tons of food, some for people with dietary needs and most of it didn't go out. The games I set up also didn't get set out. There were written instructions for things that weren't there.
The reception flopped. Almost everyone left. My stage manager friend wasn't near me the whole day and actually left the photoshoot with my father's cremation necklace right before the pictures with it.
There was so much more. I can't even write it all I'm so mad. I worked so hard to put together a team of people to support me on my day and it's like all the brains left the building. I'm so mad. I don't want to speak to most people involved ever again. Idk what to do.

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August 2023
Fairybride · on August 16, 2023 at 8:02 PM
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Thank you for your answer! We will def be taking a break for a long while. I imagine we will have another fantasy weddingish event in a few years when we get some other nerdy plans we have in mind up and running. In the meantime, we're gonna wear our outfits to ren fest to get one final run out of them!
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Dedicated June 2023
SandyZV · on August 17, 2023 at 8:06 AM
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I am really sorry but I am going to be very blunt-The most important items at the wedding should have been the catering, drinks, and making your guests comfortable. If you couldn't afford those basic items to be provided by professionals, then you should have scaled WAY down, postponed until you could save more, or reworked things to have a cake and punch event.
Your pictures are beautiful and it is clear that most of your money went to the photographer. You cannot be mad, upset, or disappointed with your friends and family. They were supposed to be your honored guests and instead, you made them work the event that was supposed to be a thank you for them attending.
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Savvy September 2023
Tavia · on August 17, 2023 at 8:25 AM
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I am so sorry 😞 this breaks my heart! You deserved for your day to be perfect! Just know you did your best! Everyone else who didn’t act like they knew the drill was wrong! I hope your honeymoon was better and you have a great beautiful long life with the love of your life! Sending hugs and prayers! 💜💕🤍
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August 2023
Fairybride · on August 17, 2023 at 10:44 AM
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Thank you so much for responding! Most of the comments here have made me feel much better & I appreciate the support.
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August 2023
Fairybride · on August 17, 2023 at 10:47 AM
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I appreciate you speaking your mind but I disgree with a lot of what you said. I feel our wedding should be done the way we wanted. Yes, mistakes were made but what you suggest has no way of making us happy. A simpler ceremony would have guaranteed disappointment for us. They way we did it, we found some parts we absolutely loved.
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Dedicated June 2023
SandyZV · on August 17, 2023 at 11:05 AM
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You wanted free labor at the expense of insulting your friends and family at an event that was supposed to thank them for taking the time out of their day to witness your nuptials. If you were not inviting guests then your wedding could have been done the way you wanted without rudeness. Once you invited guests the event is no longer about you.
If you could not afford things, you don't push the cost onto your friends and family, in essence, this is what you did. You postpone and saved until you can be a proper host.
Serious question, how could hosting a proper reception, where you do not put your loved ones to work, even though it would be scaled back, not have made you happy? Manners and politeness are still a thing.
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August 2023
Fairybride · on August 17, 2023 at 11:35 AM
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I feel manners and politeness are very important. I also feel you don't know the people you are talking about. The gal who helped with food, for example. I worked her wedding 2 years prior as the Emcee. For free. Because she was my friend and i wanted to ensure her budget wedding was as amazing as possible. Theu even had a potluck reception! All the guests brought a dish. It was great. My friends and family enjoy working on festive projects together. That's half the fun and we have no issues helping each other out. To be honest I feel you are being very aggressive towards a situation you weren't a part of and I am kindly asking you to stop. Everyone else in this forum has been supportive, helpful, and kind and you seem to be just berating me for doing my best with a themed celebration.
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Savvy September 2023
Tavia · on August 17, 2023 at 12:13 PM
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You’re welcome hun! It’s okay to be upset about this you worked sooo hard! So be upset , but just know that you were a beautiful bride and now comes the best part being able to depend and love your partner forever! Good luck to you 💜💕🌞🤗☀️🤍🥰
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Savvy June 2025
Alicia · on April 23, 2024 at 8:04 PM
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Sadly, this is why it’s highly important to budget in a wedding planner. I’m so sorry,
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Dedicated October 2024
Heather · on April 23, 2024 at 8:39 PM
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This was my thought exactly.
My sister's wedding was in some ways super disappointing as well. Her groom threw his bach party the night before and his cousin, a 15 year old, got so wasted he sat on the steps during the ceremony with a bucket between his knees. People left the reception early as well. She felt like she hadn't fulfilled her duty to entertain and took it very personally.
At the end of the day, I truly hope that somewhere in the future you can recall the memories with fondness, at least to have a good laugh or a cringe, thankful that somehow you got through it: lime-stained dress and all.
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