i haven’t received almost 1/2 my Rsvps and it’s past my due date.

When do you need to provide a final guest count to your first vendor? I would start reaching out two weeks before that. The RSVP process has got to be one of the worst parts of wedding planning, Lol.

View Quoted Comment Hey Stacy, thanks for your fast reply! It’s not until late June, but depending on how many people come, it will determine our budget for a couple other things so I’d like them in sooner than that. So if I had to put a date, I’d say around. June 15th


Also, your dog in your profile picture is cute! I have a miniature schnauzer with the same facial colors 😊 they’re the best!

If your due date is the 23rd and you didn’t get a bunch in the mail on that day because they come in at the last minute, then you and fiancé get on the phone the evening of the 23rd and call everyone who has not replied yet. Take a couple days or however long it takes till you reach everyone.

People can be pretty shocking when it comes to RSVPing and most of the time it comes down to people thinking they already RSVPed and thus essentially forgetting to do so. Your RSVP date has passed so if I were you I would already start contacting people.

I think it's fine to get in touch now. They've had 5 days beyond what they were asked for, and presumably at least 6 weeks if not more to respond - I'd be calling or texting for sure - whatever you think is most likely to garner a response. Is there a family member you can deputise to reach out as well?

If you've posted them, you've got the added bonus of being able to be like "just checking your rsvp didn't get lost in the mail - I'd hate for you to miss out because of delays in the post!"

We've done ours digitally, and we can see whether the email was received, whether it was opened and when, as well as when they've updated their responses! It would be a bit awkward to be like "we saw you opened our invite on x date, why haven't you responded one way or another?!" lol.

Also, you made me want to go check ours, and we have 57% back, and one more week until they're due. Eek! Getting so close!

You’d be surprised the amount of people who assumed they already RSVP’d. Lol. I would start contacting people now and asking them

First of all, people suck at being punctual, so I’m sorry. Every bride goes through this, so you are not alone. I would start reaching out now to those guests who have not rsvpd so you can get some answers!

Start calling people now.

Where are you located that you can invite 300 people to a wedding during covid??

For our RSVPs they were online. We also put right on our RSVPs any RSVP not received by X date would be assumed as regrets End it worked out really well because we didn’t have to Chase people down. I would send a text to everyone and if they ghost you assume that they don’t want to go.

I think contacting them now is fine. It’s 4 days past your deadline and those coming in the mail should have been there by now.

Start calling people today. Split it up between you and your FH.

We had a lot of people who clearly mailed the rsvp card on the due date (probably after mail pick up even), so they rolled in a few days later (like the due date was maybe a Thursday and that Monday we had about 10 envelopes in the mail!), so personally I’d definitely give yourself a few more days to wait for replies to save yourself some effort as hopefully a few more will roll in, since you have the wiggle room with timing that you need numbers by. If you were on a time crunch, it’s fine to reach out now.

Id contact them now.
But keep in mind that the mail has been especially slow. I’m just getting RSVPS from guests that live 30 minutes away that sent them out weeks ago.

I’d be on the phone NOW. That’s a lot of people… And a big $$$$ difference too.

I think you could contact them now if you really want but think it would be jumping the gun. Don't forget the due date is the post marked due date which means a lot of people probably put it in the mail on or around that date. Honestly so many people think of the "due date" as to "to-do date." Your due date being Sunday means the earliest they would be mailed is only 3 days ago. I would wait at least until Tuesday (seeing this is a holiday weekend and people might be unavailable) to reach out. You still have time and don't want to come off as accusatory if people did put them in the mail on time and they just haven't come to you in the mail yet.

Also I would have given people one option or the other and not both because you might think people will just go and RSVP online easily but many might have chosen the more traditional mail route especially if it came in the invitation suite already ready to be mailed with a return envelope and stamp. If someone put RSVP in the mailed invitation suite I would use that over the online RSVP even though I'm on a computer everyday. I'm sure there are people that forgot too but I'm just saying I wouldn't assume you'd have more RSVPs by now just because they could do it online instantly.

I feel your pain! Apparently my fiancé's entire family doesn't think RSVPs are actually necessary, and only 2 people (one couple) from his entire family RSVP'd, not even his parents! I printed up a list of all the people we didn't get RSVPs from and highlighted all the ones from his side and told him they were his responsibility to chase down. I chased down ones from my side, and the few we never heard back from we're just assuming as declined. If they haven't sent an RSVP by now it's probably safe to assume more time probably won't help, and with that many people still unaccounted for you should definitely start following-up now.

You're having trouble getting RSVPs because you set your RSVP date too early. 8 weeks from your wedding is when your invitations should be going out, not when you should be asking guests to tell you whether or not they will be able to attend. A lot of people simply are not able to know for sure so far out from the date.