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Just Said Yes May 2024

i need help accepting I'm going to be a fat bride with acne

Kelsey, on May 6, 2024 at 12:24 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 5
I can't be the only one. Other women struggle with either being plus sized and/or having acne.
I'm a woman getting married to another woman. My fiancee is a 25 years old, 5 feet 10 inches tall, 133lb, hourglass shaped woman with long blonde blue eyes, and perfect skin. I am a 30 year old, 5 feet 6 inches tall, 288 lb, apple shaped woman with long blonde hair, blue eyes, and terrible skin. My face, upper neck, back, shoulders, and upper arms are covered in acne pimples and acne scars. Makeup can only do much. Pictures can be edited. Anyone there can see my skin even under all that makeup. Plus I sweat a ton.
Even with all that insecures, I also have the flu. So I might be a sweaty fat bride with acne.and the flu. The sweating and the flu I may be able to do something about but it will take a miracle to do anything about the acne, and absolutely nothing can be done about the weight. Some else has to under getting married while fat, with acne, with the flu, and sweaty.

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Latest activity by Kelsey, on May 10, 2024 at 7:56 AM
  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    One bride was expressing concerns about her looks recently. Much of what she was hoping for was to have pictures that reflect the way she wanted best to see of herself on her wedding day. Short of finding some dermatologist with a quick solution. There may be some basics to do. See if a makeup artist can effectively address some acne problems. If you wear a veil, that could help if you otherwise have your neck and arms showing. Maybe use some body makeup if that can give at least a more consistent skin color. Tanning lotion also may help but this tends to make editing of pictures harder for the photographer.

    Here's some stuff I found for acne using an AI chat. For treating the acne, you can start using over-the-counter skin cleansers and topical lotions or gels containing benzoyl peroxide or salicylic acid to help clear up mild back acne.

    Hoping the best for you.

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    My biggest advice would be to accept and love who you are… and to remember who you are is NOT how you look! Definitely don’t compare yourself to your bride. If anything, realize that you are so beautiful and special and amazing that you not only caught the attention of a beautiful woman, but made her fall so in love with you that she wants to spend the rest of her life with you. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way, and you need to celebrate your unique beauty. And above all else, do not allow your insecurities to dictate how you enjoy your wedding. We hear so many brides who get so fixated on looking perfect on their wedding day, that they miss out on truly being present and enjoying this once in a lifetime experience!
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  • Heather
    Rockstar October 2024
    Heather ·
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    For the sake of both your and your future wife’s sanity, you gotta go into a healthy marriage confident that you are loved. It starts with respecting yourself. As a plus sized bride as well, I realize the goal is to be the best wife I can be, not the best bride.


    If I do anything to improve my looks and health prior to the wedding, it’s for a journey that extends well beyond my wedding day. I accept that I will not lose all the pounds I want to, by then. Giving myself that deadline is arbitrary; I am working on myself in my time.
    As such I have seen improvements to my skin and hair because they were my priorities. The weight is just going to be a work in progress. My fiancé loves me not for how I look (pretty bad premise for spending a lifetime together) but my persistence and desire to better myself.
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  • Andrea
    Super January 2024
    Andrea ·
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    The number one thing to keep in mind is that you’re the one your fiancee chose to marry. You look beautiful to her. I know you care about pictures and what everyone else thinks, but in the end your future spouse loves who you are.
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  • Kelsey
    Just Said Yes May 2025
    Kelsey ·
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    Wow I had to take a double take! My name is Kelsey too and I am just one inch taller than you and weigh the same. Sending you a warm hug and I see you!! Know your fiancé chose you, all that’s left is choosing you too. If you want to chat, I’m here!! Having affirming people is important- like people preparing you and a photographer who gets it
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