I need help please

How lucky you have so many little ones in your life! I might do something like get special floral items for each child (where appropriate), like wrist corsages for the girls and boutineers for the boys. Also getting a photo with you and your spouse with all of them would be so cute!

I think wrangling all of them to be in the ceremony might be asking for chaos.

My FH and I have 9 nephews. One is 15 but the rest are between 3-10. Two will be ushers and also walk my mother and grandmother down the aisle. Another two will also usher and walk my FH’s mother down the aisle. One will be the ring bearer. Two will be ring security. And two will be flower boys. I hope that helps!

We have 2 nieces (11 years old) that will be junior bridesmaids. Another niece (6) will be a flower girl, and my grandson (7) ring bearer. The ones aged under 7 might be tough to include but I like the idea of having them wear the same color. So cute to see all the little ones all dressed up.

FWIW Daughter had 2 nephews and 2 nieces, ages 10, 8, 6, and 4, all siblings, as ringbearers and flower girls. It worked out okay, but honestly, it was a lot and except that not having them all would have caused MAJOR drama with their mother, she would not have done it. At the rehearsal, the youngest was crawling under furniture and in to roped off areas at the venue and creating issues for the wedding coordinator who was trying to get a large wedding party through a walk through in the middle of a major rainstorm that moved the planned outdoor walk through into a small interior space. Same child SCREAMED bloody murder at the semi-formal rehearsal/welcome dinner with more than 50 attendees, and her parents did nothing to stop it -- she was nearly 5 years old, and should have been much more controlled. Day of the wedding even though the bride created a timeline that didn't have the kids arrive at the venue until an hour before the ceremony, even that was too much time and they were bored and behaved inappropriately -- again, youngest did a lot of screaming and throwing tantrums, olders were fighting, running around, etc. Daughter paired each of the older kids with a younger to walk down the aisle. Right before the first pair were to walk down the aisle (keep in mind they were all right in front of bride and FOB), the older boy turned around and slugged his younger brother in the stomach (for no reason...), daughter and FOB stood there in horror to see if the younger boy would start screaming, luckily he didn't and the coordinator just sent the first pair down the aisle, but daughter's last seconds before she walked down the aisle were less that calm and relaxed. Daughter had all four kids walk down the aisle and then turn to sit in the second row with their dad (mom was a BM). That way okay, except in the video during the vows, you can clearly hear the youngest one fussing about something.... At least one of the kids was uncooperative in every photo they were in. Just before the wedding party was to be introduced into the reception, the youngest again started screaming (right in the entrance way, where she could be seen and heard by all attendees). Her dad pulled her aside. She ended up falling asleep on a lounge chair before dinner was served and slept until her parents rounded all the kids up and left around 9:30 pm. The youngest boy (6 yrs old) spent the entire reception walking around sucking his thumb and looking way over tired. Overall, the wedding was everything daughter and SIL wanted, but they seriously regretted having the kids in the wedding -- and daughter did everything she could up front to try to set them up for success, but it was clearly too much for that particular group of kids.

I'd agree with the pp who recommended finding little ways to honor/engage them (e.g., flower crowns, little nosegays, older ones escorting grandmothers, etc.), perhaps give their parents some basic parameters for their attire so it coordinates, if they want, and then plan to get a photo or two with them all at some point. Unless it's a very casual wedding and you'll be good with things potentially going off the rails, personally, I would not consider having them all actually in the wedding party. Good luck!

First thing I d do is speak to their parents and see how involved they d want them to be in the wedding, my parents had a rule under 5 they said no to me being in a wedding especially if it was an evening affair. Sometimes the parents want their children there and sometimes they d prefer if they aren’t it can be super stressful for the parents esp if they have multiple young children in the bridal party. Best of luck to you!