I Need Help

He sounfs like an inconsiderate jerk. I personally wouldn't stay with someone like this.

I wouldn’t continue a relationship with someone who continued to exhibit behavior that made me uncomfortable.

Yeah I would be walking away. Anybody who entertained this type of behavior and doesn’t care about your feelings is not someone who you need to be with.

Then that's a talk that you need to have with your fiancé and if he's not willing to change his actions then you may want to move on with your life

I agree with everyone on this. I'd definitely be leaving. That is a huge red flag. He keeps entertaining his ex even when he knows you are uncomfortable with it. Sounds to me like you have every right to be uncomfortable because it seems like he is keeping her on the sidelines for some reason.

This sounds like a situation I refer to as a “normal meter” being broken.
Being held and kept from leaving a room is kidnapping. That he thinks this is nothing more than an excuse for why he left you out at a bar in the early morning speaks volumes. The first being that he is so used to bizarre behavior he will need a lot of professional help to learn appropriate boundaries. The second is that instead of being upset he was *held against his will* he wants to meet her without you but his ex will be there and you are not allowed to say “hell no.”
He didn’t ask for advice so I won’t go there, but what I will ask you - is this the life you want? You don’t have to sign on to this.

He failed marriage tryouts. If he’s being this disrespectful of your feelings, what is he going to be like when you’re married? I would ask for premarital counseling. If he doesn’t know what boundaries are I’d seriously sit down and ask myself if this is someone who has my back after leaving me outside in the middle of the night.