I need to fire my Maid of Honor!

You can't.

That is all.

There is no such thing. You 'fire' her, you ruin the relationship.

There's no way to ask your MOH to step down without hurting your friendship.

You can't.

You can't fire a MOH/BM. It isn't a job.

If you ask her to step down, expect to lose a friendship.

Yep. No way it won't hurt the friendship. Doesn't sound like it's that great to begin with.

You can't. Suck it up or end the friendship

I need to "fire" (to use your term) my bridesmaid and actually fire my wedding planner. I'm so over everything today I might just call off the wedding and elope.

You can't. It will likely end the friendship.

Wow.

You can't- this is why there are so many posts that say do not pick your bridal party until 6 months before?

Yeah, you can't. But it sounds like the relationship was already ruined.

If she is a crappy friend, Why do you care if the friendship end?

Thanks Ladies!

I agree with Julia, if the relationship is already damaged and you feel like she is being overbearing and unsupportive them why should it matter if firing her cause a problem?

You can't. It's not a company, it's a bridal party.

@e=mc2: yes. This right here is precisely why.

OP, I'm sorry your friend is being such a bad friend. But You're still almost a whole year out. A lot can happen between now and then. If you guys are definitely 100% no longer friends and you want her out of your life, then that's that and you don't need to say anything really. But you can't fire her.

Unless you accepted applications, interviewed her, and are currently paying her wages. Then I guess you can fire her.

I had to "fire" my MOH too.

I didn't even think it would be necessary now or ever seeing as I didn't actually ask her to be my MOH. I called her to share my happy news that Shawn had just proposed and all she said was " I'm so excited to be your maid of honor!" I was totally stunned. We have been best friends for the last fifteen years but I never imagined she'd just assume she'd be the MOH before I even had a chance to sit down and give wedding planning a second thought. On top of that, I have three sisters who she didn't even consider. I made the mistake of letting it go and just wanting to relish in being engaged, so I never corrected her. I didn't even know at that point what I was going to do.

Once I started to make some real plans, I did end up sitting her down and telling her she wasn't going to be my MOH. She is pissed but it doesn't matter. I'd rather deal with the unpleasantness now than during my wedding and I hope somewhere deep inside, she understands where I'm coming from. I think you should just get it over and done with and be honest about how you feel. She might have her feelings hurt but it's YOUR day. It should be what YOU want!

You either keep her as MOH and a friend or you lose her. It is a huge dis to get fired from a wedding.

View Quoted Comment You should judge her like this if you d ok n k ok w her. You have no idea what the fight was about or what the friend did to her to make her feel this way. Shame on you!